- 5 years ago
- Wedding: February 2014
I got engaged on Feb. 16th 2013. We have been toghether 4 years, but we don’t live together. I am old fashion and don’t believe in living together before getting married. He wants us to buy a house and move into together before getting married. I am just not really comfortable with it. My family will freak out on us as I come from a very christain family. He says we would have a date by the time we moved into a house. He also told me he would not buy before inless I moved in with him. I am just as a lose of what to do on this? I am not very good at explaining my christain views. I would be fine with buying house and one of us living into till we get married. I figured we get married within 2 or 3 months after buying house. Set the wedding date and find house before wedding.
I have been working as a substitue teahcer while trying to find a full time teaching position in the area we are planing on living in. Recently I had to move back home with my mom because my landlord sold the house were I was living in the garage apartment. I could not find anything around close that I could afford being a substitute. My mom is 80 miles away so that makes subsitute in that area next to impossiable. I am still in the system and will be next year.
I would like to get married this year maybe Sept or Oct. of this year. I live in a small town and will have a church wedding so the venue is no problem. I have lived here most of my life and I can’t think of anyone that waited over a year to get married.
By getting married this year it would allow me to make more money and be in the area loooking for a job where I will be living permently. As of right now I really don’t have a job and there is not much around here for anyone other than walmart. The school system here does not have much turnover and its extreamly hard to get into. You have to know someone and I don’t. I know poeple that have been trying for 3 or 4 years to get in. Substituting here is minimum wage and working like 3 days a week. When I lived in my Fiance area I was make over twice a day what I make here and I was working 5 days a weeks. I even had several teachers that asked for me.
By waitng to get married he like making me start over here by finding a job and then when we finally do get married I will have to start all over again there. Being a subsitute take likes a year to get in really good with the teachers.
He wants to get married like Feb. 22 2014 or maybe April or May. the 22nd of Feb. is our 5th year anniversity. I am just not sure about a Feb. wedding. I am afraid it will be to cold and people won’t come like they would if it is warmer.
I would like to get some pictures of outside the church at the wedding with the tress and that won’t look good in Feb. I have also decided on blue as my bridemaid color and daisies as my flowers and that does not go with Feb.
Money for the wedding and house is not the issue it just my fiance thinking its going to take forever to plan a wedding. I know most of what I want and its nothing to big. I even found my dress and the bridemaid dresses the first week I went out looking. Also we have been together 4 years and I am just so ready to be married.
We really can’t start looking for house yet because he does not credit, but he has gotten a credit card and is working on that. The bank told us about 3 months.
I am not sure how to bring this up with out sound angery, mad, and controling. He is being like every guy I know just a procrastinator. I am also tired of telling people I am not sure when we are getting married.