Post # 1
Well Bees –
I planted the “lets talk about dates” seed the ther day, and Fiance came home from the grocery this afternoon and said, “I’ve been thinking, and I guess you’re probably right about us needing to think about setting a date.” Ladies, I almost fell out of my chair when he said that. He gets overwhelmed easily, so I just haven’t been pushing things as far as planning goes; I wanted him to get there on his own, and he finally did 🙂
So, we have talked and come up with a few options. In a previous post I mentioned that he is currently in nursing school and will be finished in May of 2018. I was perfectly happy to have the wedding that Spring but he started talking about Fall weddings. We both like 10/20/18 but when I counted and we saw that it was 29 months away (holy crap) it opened our eyes to how long of an engagement that really is (he proposed over Thanksgiving weekend). So, we talked a bit more and we both also like 7/29/17. (I’m on board with that bc it fits my “vision” I’ve had in my head pretty well.)
Here’s my question: Do we shoot for a longer, less stressful engagement, or shave off 1.5 years and go with a date that I actually kind of prefer? I Don’t guess we have to make a decision right away, but I am feeling the pressure if we DO decide on 2017. Thoughts?
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Post # 2
A year is plenty of time to plan a wedding. 2017
Post # 3
Agreed. We got engaged 10/16/15, set our date/booked our venue 10/31/15, for just under one year away (10/28/16). At this point, all the major plans are made, and we’re still 5 months out. A year is plenty of time to get it all done!
Post # 4
I also think a year is plenty to plan a wedding. However, it also depends on where you live. Fiance and I don’t particularly live in a large city, but we started to venue shop in October 2015 for a July/August 2016 wedding and the venues we liked were already completely booked. So I would say do some shopping around and ask venues how far out they typically book. Especially if you want a wedding during peak season where you live. June-August is peak where I live, so that was one other reason why the venues in our area booked 1.5 years out.
If you feel a time crunch for a July 2017 wedding, what about October 2017? That would give you a couple extra months, yet you wouldn’t have to wait for October 2018.
Post # 5
I also think a year is plenty of time but agree that it is going to depend on your city. We set a date about 9 months out but then had some family emergencys that put planning on the back burner. We really got on the ball about 6 months out and haven’t had any problems with booking anything.
Post # 6
I would absolutely love to do October 2017; it would be perfect actually, but Fiance will be in school then so we can’t 🙁
I think a little over a year is probably fine. I just had it in my head that I would be waiting until 2018, so it all of the sudden seems really fast haha.
The only think that I am apprehensive about is stressing him out. He will have to go to things like tastings and meetings with photographers and florists and whatnot while he is in school if we go for late July, right? I know it doesn’t seem like going to a tasting is “too much to ask” but he is in a very accelerated program, and he spends all waking hours glued to his computer when school is in session. :/
Post # 7
It’s best to have an open dialogue with him about what your expections from him are when it comes to planning and what he would like and can help with. My Fiance and I are getting married July 2017 and he is in a very intense engineering program. From what he tells me, planning hasn’t been too much of a burden because so much of it is emailing back and forth and phone calls. I don’t mind doing this part myself (and with my mom). My Fiance will give me his input on the things that he cares about, and really that doesn’t take so much time. We are having a two year engagement and we really have only had to go to an appointment once every couple of months on a weekend. It just really depends on how you want to divide up the planning. 🙂
Post # 8
- Wedding: August 2017 - Sea Cider
I would consider the following:
1) do things tend to book quickly in your area?
2) would having more time mean a bigger/better budget, or that it might be easier for you to save (i.e. $150/mo instead of $500/mo)
3) would you prefer to be married sooner under any circumstances, or would you okay with waiting, if waiting meant having him be more involved, reduced stress, etc.?
I’m right, smack-dab in the middle of a long engagement, myself (26 months), and right at this moment, I am incredibly grateful that we chose a long engagement. I got the date I wanted, first pick of ALL my vendors, budgeting has been easy, and we still have been able to afford some “nicer” touches – wedding planner, live band, incredible honeymoon, and we’re paying for pretty much everything our bridal party needs, so that all they have to do is show up. nothing feels rushed, I’ve been able to watch my Fiance become more excited and involved (a slow, but rewarding process), and we’ve been able to do a lot of premarital counseling (something we really wanted to do). Saving/planning for the wedding has not cut into our lifestyle, and we still take regular vacations, and go about our lives with minimal interruption.
do I sometimes wish we were getting married THIS August? you bet. I’m looking forward to being “Mrs” so much, I can almost taste it. but I think the wait is worth it. 🙂
Post # 9
- Wedding: March 2017 - Ceremony: Cellon Oak Park; Reception: Alachua Woman\'s Club
Does your Fiance have the summer term off or is 7/29/17 just during his break between semesters? I think if you do the majority of the legwork (fully researching vendors and emailing to get most of your questions answered) and then plan any necessary in-person appointments for when he has breaks from nursing school then you should be able to keep his stress level down. I also did an accelerated nursing program so I know it takes all of your time and can be stressful but if he’s ok with you taking on most of the planning and him just helping with the major decisions then I think that 7/29/17 is definitely doable.