Post # 1
My SO and I will be together for 5 years in December (he’s 32, I’m 29). We’ve talked about marriage a lot in the past year; most of this is in generalities (as in ‘when I get married’ vs. ‘when we get married’), but we do discuss some specifics about what our married life would look like (where we’d live, how many kids, finances, etc.). I want to get engaged pretty badly, and he knows I want this. I’ve been doing my best to be patient as he gets his ducks in a row, since he left a horrible job earlier this year, and is in an unpaid position that will turn into a paid full time job hopefully in the next month.
Early in our relationship, SO expressed that engagement was a big deal to him – way more important than the wedding. He’s also stated that proposing on holidays like a birthday or Christmas was just a cop out on buying a gift. So I’ve basically told myself not to expect anything on those dates.
Luckily, he’s horrible at keeping secrets. Since Christmas is just around the corner, I’ve been pestering him to figure out what my gift will be. The clues I got out of him last night are that the gift is 1) something he might want my opinion on before buying to make sure ‘i got the one i wanted’, and 2) non-returnable. During my badgering, he said he needed to get the right size and definitely used the word “sparkle”.
I can’t tell if it’s my engagement obsessed brain only hearing what it wants, or if there’s a possibility that he’s talking about a ring. I don’t want to set myself up for disappointment, though. What does everyone else think?
Post # 3
Just tell yourself that he’s getting you a bread-maker…THAT way no matter what you actually get, it will be infinately better.
Post # 4
My hubby did that to me… but then I got a promise ring. I’m not gonna lie, I pretty much wanted to kill him!!!
Fingers crossed for you lady! It sounds like it could be coming, just maybe not on Christmas Day (but maybe around that time!)
Post # 5
Thank God you only have a month to christmas because yes that sounds like a ring to me!! That is so exciting!!
Post # 6
@cinbee: In what context was the word ‘sparkle’ used? That man is sure being confusing!
Post # 7
Of course nobody can be sure, but it sure sounds promising!
Post # 8
@Omgbunnies: He was talking about how the size needed to be right, and when pressed he said it was like buying a bra…that he knew approx what size I was, but that he’d rather just ask me for the size than get the wrong one. And that some have more sparkle than others. Lol. I thought it was a weird comment, but basically couldn’t concentrate after that point.
@Nona99: That’s good advice…I’ve been trying to temper my expectations, and a breadmaker (perhaps a bedazzled one?) might need to be what I concentrate on for the next month!
Our anniversary is the 22nd, and we generally don’t exchange gifts (since it’s close to Christmas), so if it does happen, that’s the date I’d guess.
Post # 9
@cinbee: I’ve seen some awesome sparkly bras…. so I would say, just tell yourself its a bra and dont get too excited. You dont want to be disappointed.
Post # 10
A ring would be returnable, so I’m guessing it’s something else. Usually “non-returnable” means it’s either custom made, personalised, or there’s a hygiene reason for not returning it. Maybe it’s earrings? They would be non-returnable for hygiene reasons.
Post # 11
My first thought was earrings. It sounds like some sort of jewelry, but honestly, not necessarily an engagement ring.