Post # 1

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Buzzing bee
So earlier today was my cousin’s ceremony (reception at 6:30, grrrr) and during the entire thing, my mom talked to my aunt and tried to talk to me. They took pictures of their feet and did other strange things. Kingy and I, first of all, thought this was SOOOO rude. Second of all, our wedding is in 3 weeks- what kind of precedent did she just set for my wedding? She and my aunt kept saying I looked annoyed at the ceremony and couldn’t understand why. Well, stop talking during other people’s weddings? Especially when mine is in 3 weeks and I really want no talking or messing around during mine.
Vent over, advice as to how to handle this would be great
Post # 3

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Buzzing bee
Can you just tell her the truth? That she was making you uncomfortable by talking during the ceremony?
Post # 4

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Buzzing bee
Youch, that was your mother behaving like that? I would definitely talk to her and let her know you felt it was rude and that you’re hoping that sort of behavior doesn’t happen at your wedding. I would tell her aside from the reception tonight (don’t start a scene at the reception). I would definitely say something though.
Post # 5

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Buzzing bee
@Beluga: haha, yes I do plan to do that- I sort of did already but not in a straight out way
I just hope she didn’t make my other family members think that her behavior is okay. I guess they are adults and can think for themselves. It just made me uncomfortable and worried.
Post # 6

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Honey bee
@kingytobe: are they adults or kids????? ’cause that’s something kids would do!!!! Yeah, definitely talk to her about this! though, don’t be too surprised if others do it, too. weddings CAN be boring…
I am NOT saying it’s right!!!!!! Far from it! but there are gonna be those who could care less about good etiquette and are gonna act like immature kids. 🙁
sorry you gotta deal with this! hopefully the bride and groom (or wedding party) didn’t notice!!!!
Post # 7

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Buzzing bee
@Zinzerena: I know, it was incredibly immature. I understand that it can be boring and discreet whispering is fine but they were just being ridiculous. The groom’s sisters were sitting a row in front of us so I hope they weren’t offended. His Aunt on the other side of the family was clearly angry, and rightly so. It was so uncomfortable to even be sitting near them.
@milesbella: Good idea, I’ll leave the conversation to another day, most likely tomorrow!