Settle this debate for me *NWR*

posted 3 years ago in Babies
  • poll: Is this colour gender neutral?
    Yep...maroonish/plumish is fine for either :) : (94 votes)
    86 %
    Nope...ANY shade of purple is girly! : (13 votes)
    12 %
    Nope...anything in the 'maroon family' is totally boyish. : (2 votes)
    2 %
  • Post # 16
    7778 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2010

    Here in Baltimore during football season you see men with purple on all the time (Go Ravens!). So I don’t think of purple as a girly color at all. 

    Post # 17
    7643 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    snowflake8 :  I wouldn’t put a boy in that colour. I wouldn’t want to field the “what a beautiful girl” comments (which I got unless I dressed my son in blue, pretty well).

    But then, I waited till my kids were born before buying most of their outfits.

    Post # 19
    1191 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2021 - City, State

    Babies can wear any colour, colours aren’t associated with sex of the baby, because that’s what you think you know – the sex not the gender. 

    All this girls can only wear pink, boys can only wear blue is nonsense 

    Post # 20
    230 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2016 - Ed Oliver Golf Club, Wilmington, DE

    I think it would be totally fine! We were team green from the beginning but ended up finding out the gender because our baby is going to be born with some serious health problems, and I wanted to buy some stuff for the hospital stay that was specific with her name on it. She’s a girl! And now I look at the gender neutral stuff we bought and I realize I was defintely thinking she was a boy (it’s all basically blue and monsters and camo, haha) but I kept every single piece of it, because like everyone else said, she won’t care and it’s going to get puked or pooped on soon enough anyway! haha! Good Luck!! We are due around the same time! I am being induced at the latest on March 19th (most likely 16/17)  can’t wait! 

    Post # 21
    6 posts

    I personally think that any colour is gender neutral, its a wedding so I think that flamboyant and happy colours work on men super well!

    Post # 22
    3867 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2015

    snowflake8 :  I find it bizarre that the masculinity of your hypothetical newborn son is going to be under attack or question for wearing a “maroon/plum” colored onesie. 

    Post # 23
    1936 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2015

    I associate any shade of purple with royalty, not gender. I think it’s a very unisex colour, although not a commonly used one that I’ve seen.

    Post # 24
    580 posts
    Busy bee

    People can wear any color. I happen to love a maroon color. Who the hell cares if people think your child is X gender if it’s Y? Tell your husband to think about things that actually matter in relation to your child.

    Post # 25
    6445 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: February 1997

    I’d return it if you are unsure. Color aside, it won’t be until you have your first baby that you realize what is most convenient for YOU to dress them in, so much of what you buy now won’t be as useful as you think. You will be changing diapers regularly, and certain types of clothing will have the snaps or zippers that you find easiest to use. You will gravitate toward using those as often as possible, regardless of color.

    However, I DO understand not wanting people to constantly misidentify your baby as a boy when she’s a girl or a girl when he’s a boy. No, it’s no issue for the baby, and it isn’t a big deal in the big scheme of things, but it is nice to not have everyone ask or not to have to correct everyone. Again, first-world “problem”, I realize, but it really is just more convenient to have a baby dressed in girl or boy associated colors when you take them out.

    Post # 26
    899 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2015

    I’m team green and have everything from purple to dinosaurs that I will put on either a girl or boy. Dh wears purple I wear every colour so will our child. It really doesn’t matter especially in smaller sizes chances are they won’t even leave the house in that outfit. 

    Post # 27
    575 posts
    Busy bee

    Half the men in Frace wear pink pants and scarves. Relax! Just wait to see the outfits you will get gifted, think you will never put such a thing on your baby and then secretely thank the providence they gave it to you, because it was the last clean thing you had after a major blowout.

    Post # 28
    1220 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    snowflake8 :  Unless you want to enforce STRICT gender norms (which I do not recommend)…purple is fine for a boy. My brother wore purple growing up and he grew up fine. Darling Husband wears purple all the time and he is very comfortable in his masculinity.

    It’s really a shame that girls can wear any color of the rainbow and boys get stuck with stereotypically “manly” colors (gray, blue, green for the most part).

    Also worth a read:

    I think it’s high time to stop trying to restrict our kids (of either gender) on what they can or cannot do. It seems suppressive of their truest selves. 

    Post # 29
    1151 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2015

    I personally haven’t put my baby boy in that color but if I saw something cute and seemed boyish enough, I’d be fine with it.  Would need to see it to really judge.

    Post # 30
    195 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: November 2015

    It’s 1 onesie! I just put aside a stack of onesies that my son isn’t going to get the chance to wear even once because he has already grown out of that size. Just don’t put that one on if you plan on going anywhere, NBD.

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