(Closed) Seven Bridesmaids–Don’t do it–Keep your wedding parties small!

posted 9 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
418 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

small is good.. less people to worry about.. I’ve got a Maid/Matron of Honor, Bridesmaid or Best Man, and a jr. Bridesmaid or Best Man and thats enough for me!

Post # 4
440 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I am 9 bridesmaids in. 3 are sisters, 1 is from high school, 2 are from college, 1 is from work, 2 are from vet school. I have 1 flower girl – my niece (my sister threatened my life if her kid wasn’t in the wedding) and 2 junior bridesmaids.


On the upside I have had a great sounding board for all my ideas because I never call the same one twice! No seriously I chose ladies that have been in my life for the long haul. I know their personalities and they know mine. I have enjoyed having so many friends and such a support network during all of this stress. And some of them have some crazy talents – Need make up artists? no problem got a BM! Need DIY flowers? Call a BM! Need a fashionista? Have 4 that have fantastic taste and know what works and what doesn’t? Need a night to go out and let loose and dance out all the wedding stress? Except for my daddy and my Fiance anyone in my speed dial!

Just think of it not as wedding time but as hanging out time.

Post # 5
652 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

if i could start over i would have no bridesmaids! lol

Post # 6
1428 posts
Bumble bee

I’m having 4 BM’s and that’s it for me. I was in a wedding last year with like (felt like 50) 14 and it was out of control. Not doing that …..no more drama…

Post # 7
1104 posts
Bumble bee

I’ve got 4 (2 sisters, 1 cousin, 1 (male) BFF) and that feels like overkill to me πŸ™‚ I was so excited to ask all of them though, and I feel really good about the people I have chosen. But that’s plenty to have to think about and organise! I have several other people who could have been contenders, but in the end I wanted to keep it mostly family, plus none of my girlfriends could be jealous about the male BFF πŸ™‚ Other friends will be helping out a lot, and will be getting special thankyous etc.

Post # 8
4480 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch

Small is better… but only when you got stuck with a big one you didn’t want. πŸ˜‰ I wanted three girls to be bridesmaids, but got pressured into asking my two step-sisters (I’m not close to them… I don’t even like them) and then I want my brothers there, too, since I think it would be an insult just to make them ushers (and Fiance insisted on his brother (obvs) plus his six closest friends…). I think just about every young person at the wedding is going to be in our wedding party. πŸ˜‰

Post # 9
172 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Lol!  I wish I had a happier bridal party story, but I definitely wish I had kept my bridal party smaller too!  I have 7 BMs, and while I love all of the friends I asked to be a part of it, had I known all the issues and drama that can come out when it comes to weddings and bridal parties, I would have kept my bridal party much smaller and thought of other ways to involve certain friends.  Maybe it’s naive of me but I just never would have expected that my closest friends (or, people who I thought were my closest friends) would cause so many issues.  After I started experiencing some of this, almost all of my married friends said that they went through similar things with their bridal parties, and a few said that bridal parties are so much more trouble than they’re worth — a friend of mine even said that going through a wedding (of course, not just the fun planning stuff but the “heavier” things like future in-law issues, money stuff, relationship changes, etc.) really shows you who your true friends are.  Kinda sad, but also kinda true! I don’t think that I or the people I know just happen to have crappy friends or that we’re crazy bridezillas who alienate people — I think that weddings bring out a lot of different feelings and sensitivities in people and those things are not always about “you.”

I’m trying not to take things too personally, which can be hard and may be somewhat delusional, and to really be thankful and appreciative of the friends who have been really supportive.

Post # 10
666 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

I have 2 BMs and sometimes I still think it’s one too many.  Love them both, but oh, the neverending opinions!!  I totally agree that small bridal parties are best.

Post # 11
69 posts
Worker bee

I have seven bridesmaids.

No regrets here.

πŸ™‚ Why not be surrounded by people you love? Especially on your wedding day!

Post # 12
14186 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I had 6 BM’s! It worked out just fine. We all went to college together (except for one girl that i’ve known since i was 6 and everyone was really welcoming with her so she fit right in) and it was like a big party again.

Post # 13
195 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

Small is better…if I could start over I’d only have 1 or 2, or maybe no one!

Post # 14
2725 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

Wow! We are having 1 Matron of Honor, 1 Best Man, 2 flower girls, and possible 2 ushers.

Post # 15
96 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

I had 6 originally – 1 Maid/Matron of Honor and 5 bridesmaids. One, the difficult one, dropped out to be dramatic and now all my problems are pretty much nipped. I have one “care free” bm who is causing me a little stress with dress ordering but no worries! all my maids just met at my shower and now I’m SO excited for my bachelorette party… i love when everyone gets along:)

Post # 16
186 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

I wished I could have gotten the wedding party to 7. We have 11!!! So that’s basically 24 people including the bride & groom. Add a Jr. Bridesmaid or Best Man, flower girl and 2 ring bearers.

Keep it.

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