Post # 17
I can understand your concern about your parents. However, I would wait until you make it through your first tri to do anything or tell anyone.
Obviously though you need a plan about the wedding and keeping the current date doesn’t work. So you will have to change it either way.
Post # 18
Congrats! I know it is stressful right now but everything will work out 🙂
Can you push the wedding back a bit? And have it in late spring/early summer instead, when you’re only 4-5 months pregnant? I think thats what I would do… I wouldn’t tell anybody yet except maybe your parents. You never know what will happen between now and then.
Post # 19
I suggest pushing it up instead.
Post # 20
Thank you all so much for your responses. I think my first choice would be to move the wedding up and have it all over before baby comes. Our only roadblock with that is the financial end. We count on bonuses and things like that to cover the big expenses of our Wedding, so financially I am not sure we can have the day we have been dreaming of any sooner. I am so thankful for everyone’s support and repsonses!
Post # 21
Personally, I would probably try to push the date up and see if I could get married as soon as possible. Otherwise, postponing it would be a good option. I would not leave it as is.
Good luck in telling your families. If I were you, I would tell your immediate families sooner than later so that you can figure out which plan works best (and not tell anyone else til you are out of your first trimester),
Post # 22
Congrats!! Unfortunately I agree with lots of other posters on here. You’re going to need to push your wedding date up a couple of months, otherwise push it back. If you move it up, then try to have it while you’re still in your 2nd trimester. That’s the part of your pregnancy when almost everyone feels their best.
Post # 23
Congrats! I’d try to move the wedding up and then go on a real actual babymoon! People call the vacation before baby is born a babymoon but it’d be both a honey moon and a before baby vacation for you. Even if you don’t have quite the same wedding day as you were planning I think once people get over the initial surprise most people will be overjoyed that your little bundle is just coming a few months earlier than planned 😉 My LO is 9 months and it’s been such a joy to watch her grow, congrats baby’s are the best.
Post # 24
we got pregnant 9 months before our wedding! baby due september 25 and our wedding date was october 1st. we told our parents right away and we threw together an amazing wedding in 2 months! So your not alone! I’m sure your family will be thrilled! we were scared to tell our families and they were more excited than we were! Goodluck and congrats!
Post # 25
I am with everyone else, I would just cut some costs, maybe reduce the guest list or something and get married at the end of my second trimester. That is when you will feel and look the best in your pregnancy. A good friend of mine was about 26 weeks pregnant when she got married, and she looked amazing, and was so glad that she did it that way. After baby is born you are going to have so much more on your plate that having your dream wedding then could be just as hard, if not harder, then doing it before!
Post # 26
Congratulations!! I’d definitely suggest moving it up!
Post # 27
Congratulations!! I’d move it up! 🙂
Post # 28
Congrats! Id actually try pushing it up to like a few months from now if you can. Id rather rush the wedding then have to plan with an infant. But thats just me…. But then u couldnt drink at ur own wedding. Tough one. Either way dates gotta be changed. Good luck!
Post # 29
I think moving it up so it is all over before baby is a great idea! After the baby comes you wont really want to worry about a wedding. CONGRATS! This is so exciting 🙂
Post # 30
I would just move the wedding to after you have the baby. You could try to push it up to before, but why would you want to stress yourself out like that? I would move the wedding to next year spring/summer, put the planning on hold to make your life a little easier, and concentrate on this exciting new addition to your family!
I mean, you could move it up, but what’s the point? You and your Fiance know you’re going to be together. Why sacrifice your dream wedding just for logistics? So that you can say you were married before the baby was born? At some point, your baby will be able to do the math, and will figure out what happened. So it doesn’t matter if you wait.
Post # 31
Congrats!!!!!!!!!!!!!! (If it were me I would move it up)