(Closed) Seven months till Wedding and OOPS…we’re pregnant!

posted 9 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 32
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I agree that I would move it up. I know you wouldn’t be able to have the wedding of your dreams, but from what I can tell, most people change a whole lot of things after a baby is born anyway. Like, will you feel comfortable spending both your bonuses on one day when you have a baby who needs a new crib or whatever at home, anyway? It just seems like it would be harder to plan it after than to rush to plan it now, unless you want to wait years for it. 

Post # 33
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Buzzing Beekeeper

Is there a way to move it up a month or two? If so, that is definitely what I would do.

Post # 34
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Your wedding is out of state? I heard that its recommending to NOT travel during your 3rd tri… I would push it up – I wouldnt want to worry about a wedding after being deprived of sleep and still getting use to having a little one. =D

Post # 35
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2010

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@Lyndzo:  this. Make it a liiiittle earlier?

And CONGRATS!

Post # 36
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

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@rapunzelrenee:  Congratulations!!! I agree with moving it up and getting married in your 2nd trimester.  That’s when you’ll be feeling your best, and it’d be really hard to plan with an infant.  I got pregnant 10 months before our wedding, and moved the date up, so we planned our wedding in 2 months.  It worked out perfectly.  I didn’t want to be breastfeeding and feeling all new baby exhausted at my wedding.  And yea a babymoon/honeymoon is a SUPERB idea! We went to Jamaica- all inclusive = all you can eat = very happy pregnant lady!

Post # 37
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Busy bee

I’d say that’s a fantastic reason to elope! 😉  (Not against having a baby before marriage – we did, but I’m just envious of the ladies that take the plunge and elope) 🙂

Post # 38
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Congrats! Could you move the wedding up a few months? You might be so wrapped up with the new baby that it could be difficult to try to do a wedding after. And if your parents are concerned with you having a child before getting married (there is nothing wrong with that IMO, but I know some parents do have an issue with it, mine probably would), then moving the wedding date up could help solve that as well.

Post # 39
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Congratulations! Older and Old fashioned here, but I’d suggest getting married long before the baby comes for several reasons. While weddings are important and exciting, the day your baby is born will trump everything when it comes to happiness. Your priorities need to shift. A smaller, sooner wedding doesn’t have to be less happy. Many people have them – it’s who you’re marrying that’s far more important than how you get married. Babies are expensive and I doubt you’ll care as much about having a big wedding after the baby is born. You can always do a big-time vow renewal someday if you feel “cheated” on your wedding now. Whether it’s planned or not, the impending parenthood you both face and the financial commitment it will take is bigger than a wedding party right now.

Post # 40
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

hi dear, i suggest that you talk with your family and still continue with your wedding plans, i really don’t think you should hold on and push it back or anything, because after the baby you might be busier than before and stressed, feeding baby/late nights/ losing weight….etc i think it can be harder so just continue and get things done on point.

Post # 41
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I really am not sure what to do, so I can’t say much there. BUT I do want to say congrats 🙂 That is exciting news. 

Post # 42
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

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@ohmybears48:  i completely agree!

You don’t want to push it up because it will cause even twice the amount of stress. it’s been 2.5 years since ive had my daughter and i couldn’t imagine dealing with that and wedding. i don’t know about the finances involved with the wedding, but if you push it up, you may have to sacrifice stuff and not getting everything you wanted for the wedding. Both things are so stressful.

As you can imagine, having a baby is verrrry stressful and you may not be in the right mindset to do it Right after the baby is born. Definitely stuff you need to discuss with your parents. Because if they do want you to push the wedding up, thats a whole nother ball game.

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