- 7 years ago
- Wedding: May 2012
Well I have been reading everyone’s post regarding their mothers and I’m kind of in the same boat. To give you an idea, growing up my mother wasn’t the type to kiss my ouchie’s or give loads of hugs and kisses. She was extremely stressed out since she was a single mother of 3 daughters and would take her frustrations out on us. Over the years she started to soften up, but we never have been able to get along. We butt heads a lot because I want her to be a mother, loving, excited, caring, considerate, and be there for me as well. I’m the first of her daughters to get married traditionally (other sister had a court wedding…no judgement), so I expected some excitement on her part, none has really came around. She is not footing the bill, my fiance’s parents are. For every wedding thing, I have tried to include her and she is always too busy. Recently we got into a huge argument and I haven’t spoken to her in 3 weeks until yesterday. Once again, she has told me that she is too busy, she wants to be left alone, and that I’m smothering her. I don’t understand what kind of mother does this? I have a son from a previous relationship, not marriage, I know that as a mother, you have to stern yet caring…hard and soft. As a mother you make time for your children so when my mother told me all those things I was truely hurt. I cooled down and this is something that I have been thinking about for the longest, I told her that I do not want her to be a part of anything in mine, my fiance’s or son’s life anymore. She obviously doesn’t want to be a mother, has excuses, and constantly lies to me. So I will not have my mother at my May wedding, which hurts but I will not regret this. I need a mother, we all do as daughters, and she refuses to be it so why should she come to one of the most special days of my life. I did tell her that when she is willing to be my mother, then I will accept with open arms.
Thanks for reading, I just needed to vent.