(Closed) Severely need Advice…call off my wedding??

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 62
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49 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2012

You are amazingly strong. Please recognize you were able to do something not everyone in your position could do. You were able to put your future and what was right overthe upcoming wedding. I admire you and your strength.

Post # 63
Member
2965 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I wouldn’t call off the wedding completely but I would postpone.

Post # 64
Member
35 posts
Newbee

YOU took control over your situation, Hats off. Only good things are coming up.

huuuuuuuuuuuuugs

PS: I was a little surprised the reason why you broke up is all about logistics (him moving away), and nothing to do with your previous problems.

Post # 67
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5984 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 1999

Just wanted to let you know that I was thinking of you.  Following your heart and soul is a hard thing sometimes when you have feelings for someone that run deep.  Keep your chin up!

Post # 68
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11268 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

@RBailey:  it will be difficult but you’ve made the first step.  that’s always the hardest.  with your SO being away, i would think it would be easier on you.  there is nothing standing in your way of a fresh start.

good luck with everything.

Post # 69
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2780 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Do not go forward with anything more to do with the wedding, postpone if possible and go to counsiling. I agree with the person who said you have known these “disturbing” details for 2 years yet still said yes, picked a date and went forward with planning, if these disturbing details didn’t prevent that then maybe this really is just a case of cold feet.

Post # 70
Member
4943 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Bless your heart. Best wishes during this time of healing and discovery.

Post # 71
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384 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I would see a professional. Unless you can say for certain that you would have no regrets not marrying him. Otherwise, fight to WORK on your love, don’t just abandon it.

Post # 72
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340 posts
Helper bee

I think you should postpone the wedding for maybe a year or so and try to work things out with your fiance. I believe someones past is the past and it really doesn’t define someone. Everyone makes mistakes for different reasons. I think you need to explore your new feelings of not wanting to be married to him. Good luck!

Post # 73
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3829 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@RBailey:  I’m glad to see you went with your gut.  In no way will it be easy, but you seem certain with your decision and i wish you nothing but happieness in the future.  YOu will find someone new and there wont be the difficulties you have experienced here.  Good luck. 

Post # 75
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96 posts
Worker bee

@RBailey:  How are you doing? I’m deeply sorry for your grief. I admire how you have trusted yourself to make such a big decision. Hang in there. All will turn out well and good in the end. My mother once said, “Are things okay right now? No? Then it’s not over yet!”

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