Post # 62
You are amazingly strong. Please recognize you were able to do something not everyone in your position could do. You were able to put your future and what was right overthe upcoming wedding. I admire you and your strength.
Post # 63
I wouldn’t call off the wedding completely but I would postpone.
Post # 64
YOU took control over your situation, Hats off. Only good things are coming up.
PS: I was a little surprised the reason why you broke up is all about logistics (him moving away), and nothing to do with your previous problems.
Post # 65
Thank you ladies…your words of encouragement provide a little relief from the aching. Though you aren’t local around me, I do feel like I have support–and it means a lot to hear it reinforced.
It’s a long road ahead…
Post # 66
@honey_bee_tn: Thank you…I appreciate that. I just wanted to clarify–I did end it because of the previous problems, and the overall feeling in my heart that I needed to. We didn’t know about the upcoming possibility of him leaving until a couple days ago…..I was just mentioning that this makes it even harder.
Post # 67
Just wanted to let you know that I was thinking of you. Following your heart and soul is a hard thing sometimes when you have feelings for someone that run deep. Keep your chin up!
Post # 68
@RBailey: it will be difficult but you’ve made the first step. that’s always the hardest. with your SO being away, i would think it would be easier on you. there is nothing standing in your way of a fresh start.
good luck with everything.
Post # 69
Do not go forward with anything more to do with the wedding, postpone if possible and go to counsiling. I agree with the person who said you have known these “disturbing” details for 2 years yet still said yes, picked a date and went forward with planning, if these disturbing details didn’t prevent that then maybe this really is just a case of cold feet.
Post # 70
Bless your heart. Best wishes during this time of healing and discovery.
Post # 71
I would see a professional. Unless you can say for certain that you would have no regrets not marrying him. Otherwise, fight to WORK on your love, don’t just abandon it.
Post # 72
I think you should postpone the wedding for maybe a year or so and try to work things out with your fiance. I believe someones past is the past and it really doesn’t define someone. Everyone makes mistakes for different reasons. I think you need to explore your new feelings of not wanting to be married to him. Good luck!
Post # 73
@RBailey: I’m glad to see you went with your gut. In no way will it be easy, but you seem certain with your decision and i wish you nothing but happieness in the future. YOu will find someone new and there wont be the difficulties you have experienced here. Good luck.
Post # 74
The main reason I called it off was because of my “gut” feeling/believing God was trying to tell me something. Not just because of the past.
Granted, it’s only been 2 days since the call….but I feel rotten. It’s just the beginning, I know. I keep teetering between guilt/sadness/fear of the future/fear of doing life without him (at least a while)/missing him/regretting it/wanting to stick to my call/wanting to take it back………I’m sure this is all normal….I just am walking around in a daze..no appetite..still wanting the texts that I hear on my phone to be from him….and he’s not even gone yet. I can’t imagine how it will be when he is…….
I ran to him and depended on him when my family crashed….he was always there. He put up with my family drama, my emotionally-wrecked self during all of that, he was willing to drop life itself when we found out we were expecting….even through this he hates it but wants to fight for it…
Ladies. Life is so hard sometimes. Often times we make it hard on ourselves. Other times, it’s just life/lessons/God/testing our faith.
I’m trying….and it’s only day 2.
Post # 75
@RBailey: How are you doing? I’m deeply sorry for your grief. I admire how you have trusted yourself to make such a big decision. Hang in there. All will turn out well and good in the end. My mother once said, “Are things okay right now? No? Then it’s not over yet!”
Post # 76
@fullyalive: Thank you very much for your kind words. I’m hanging in there…it will set in once he leaves. Today I picked up my dress–that was really hard knowing I won’t be wearing it–at least not for a while if ever.
Your mother sounds like a smart, encouraging woman. Thank you for sharing that with me….I do believe things will become okay….