Post # 77
Just wanted to pop in and give you hugs! I know you will make it through this, you seem like a strong-willed beautiful woman!
I live in San Marcos, when your feeling up to it or ever want to chat please PM me, I would love to grab a coffee or a drink with you 🙂
Post # 78
Postpone for sure! You said you love him so I don’t see why you would want to walk away so fast and not try to work through these feelings you are experiencing.
Post # 79
I was engaged before, 2 1/2 years ago. The engagement lasted just over a month because I called it off. It was something in my gut telling me HE’S NOT THE ONE. I wasn’t excited to see him anymore, I wasn’t happy when I was with him, I started to get easily annoyed by everything he did… I didn’t get excited when people asked about the wedding. I honestly felt miserable and couldn’t see myself being happy spending the rest of my life with him. I remember thinking to myself that this should be one of the happiest times in my life right now and instead, it was one of the worst. I wasn’t happy and I realized I didn’t want to spend forever with him. I didn’t hesitate to call it off when I made up my mind and it felt like a weight had been lifted off my shoulders when I did it. It was the best decision I ever made. Six months after that I met my current bf, soon to be fiancé (we’re looking at rings) and let me tell you, I couldn’t be happier. It’s a completely different feeling than before and I know, 110%, that this man is my soul mate. My heart, gut, and mind are ALL telling me that he is the one, when before, my heart, gut, and mind were all telling me that he wasn’t.
Things will get easier with time. You called it off for a reason. Cold feet is one thing, but knowing deep down that this person isn’t for you is a completely different feeling. I think if one has not been in that position, they are not going to know what that feels like. I wish you the best and know that somewhere out there is a guy that is going to make you truly happy to spend the rest of your life with him.
Post # 80
@misschickpea: Thank you very much for your encouragement–that was very sweet of you. :]
And what a relief to know someone lives near me! I would love to grab a coffee/drink with you…you aren’t far away at all. :]
Post # 81
@OliveJuiceHunny: As of now, it is left off as post-poned (date undecided). I’m going to focus on the here & now and better myself and my understanding. I need to take care of myself before I can offer my best to anyone else…especially a man that I dearly love.
Post # 82
@Diamond84: “I remember thinking to myself that this should be one of the happiest times in my life right now and instead, it was one of the worst. I wasn’t happy…”
That is how I was feeling, and was ultimately led me to my decision. There are several dynamics at play here, but I had to do what I felt was best & right for ME. Which in the end, will also be what’s best for him.
I haven’t told my parents yet….I plan to this week in a long letter. They have influenced the course of our relationship way too much, and they greatly contribute to my feelings of being unhappy.
Thank you for sharing your story–though it was over 2 years ago for you, you still relayed on your feelings flawlessly and I completely relate to them. I am happy for you to have found your real love–and that you are soon to be engaged. Congrats to you!
I appreciate your kind words and encouragement….and just taking the time to come to my level. Thank you.