Sex after baby, how soon?

posted 4 years ago in Intimacy
Post # 2
594 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 1993

The doctor told me to wait 6 weeks. He said it takes that long for everything to close up and heal. Not that big a deal.  

Post # 3
1564 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Well it depends on the person and what they’re comfortable with. My friend found out she was pregnant her 6 week post partum visit lol

Post # 4
1664 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

We waited 8 weeks and the first time hurt like a mother f, so we waited a little longer. Even with lots of lube it hurt to the point of tears for about a month or so and we tried about once a week. 

Post # 5
3094 posts
Sugar bee

Waited 5 weeks or so.I was super

Post # 6
391 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

my dr said I could whenever I felt up to it. At 2 weeks pp it was really painful, but at 3 weeks it was back to being awesome!

Post # 7
5893 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

Most Docs say wait 6 weeks. But many women aren’t ready then. I’ve heard it’s not unusual to wait up to 6 months afterward due to low libido (BF really kills the sex drive) or pain, even with lube. 

Post # 8
3010 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

ana2017:  We waited 9 weeks. It hurt. We tried again a few weeks later and it was MUCH better and way less painful. I was also taking a Pilates class with lots of Kegals specifically for new moms and it helped a ton. I ended up needing to go to physical therapy for some muscular pain in my pelvic floor/vagina, so maybe my experience isn’t typical since I did have pain with exercise as well for almost 8 months.

Post # 9
410 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

They say 6 weeks in order for your uterus to heal properly. If you have sex too soon and your uterus is not completely healed from the placental separation, you can actually hemorrhage quite severely. There have been cases of women dying from having sex too soon postpartem. Having said that, it’s fairly unlikely and rare, and there are many women who have had sex well before 6 weeks pp and been fine. I wouldn’t risk it though. In fact, I think we waited about 3-4 months pp before sex…. but that was mostly because we were so busy and tired for the first few months.

Post # 10
9333 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

My doctor was pretty clear on nothing in the vag for 6 weeks.

Post # 11
7433 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2013

We waited the 6 weeks the doctor told us. Sex was pretty uncomfortable for me until about 6 months postpartum.

Post # 12
1893 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I was cleared at 6 weeks but it was closer to the 8-9 week mark. 

Post # 13
414 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2016

I was cleared at 8 weeks (I had my pp checkup at 8 weeks instead of 6 like most women do), but we didn’t end up having sex until like 14-15 weeks. It was super painful the first few times. It took several months before our sex life went back to normal.

Post # 15
8774 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

I was ready about 6 years after.

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