Sex after baby, how soon?

posted 4 years ago in Intimacy
Post # 16
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2013

I had a vaginal delivery. While sex was painful for about 6 months PP, we still had sex at least once a week.

Post # 18
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2013

Also this isn’t directly related to your question, but it seems that many people don’t have sex very often during pregnancy. In our December babies group, I would say that most of the ladies have had sex less than a handful of times during pregnancy. Obviously this is a personal decision and people have their own reasons. Darling Husband and I still have sex 1 or 2 times a week during pregnancy.

Post # 20
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2013

ana2017:  Some of the reasons given were exhaustion, nausea, fear of miscarriage, and the change in body.

Post # 21
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

Having sex too early can also cause an embolism (air bubble in your heart) which can kill you. 

We waited about 8 weeks and have had sex maybe…10 times in 2 years. You won’t be told not to have sex, but there’s a pretty good chance you wont want to because your boobs will probably hurt, your belly will look like an old mans ballsack, and you’ll be just too dang tired. 

Post # 22
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

Lol…no matter what you think now about your sex drive the overwhelming majority of women will be perfectly HAPPY abstaining a full 6 weeks and not too eager to jump back in. I think we tried around 8weeks and it was not comfortable.  And then it continued to hurt (but only in the beginning) until about 8-9mo post partum and since then it has been fine.  

Lack of sleep and breastfeeding 12x a will kill a sex drive for the majority of women. And YOU WON’T CARE! Trust me. I personally think it’s nature’s form of birth spacing and is perfectly normal.

There is no reason to have sex before you are cleared. You will have an open wound in your uterus that needs to heal. Having sex or using tampons can introduce bacteria and bacteria + plus open wound is not a good idea. It doesn’t matter csection or vaginal delivery, the site of the placenta is where it needs to heal. 

Post # 23
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I had a c-section and it was still painful as hell. Also, I think most women tend to think they will want to jump into the sack asap after delivery, and I can promise you, they quickly change their minds! Not to scare you, but just be prepared. Bleeding for weeks post partum, leaky boobs, lack of sleep, etc puts a damper on the sexy time for a while. 

Its not all bad though, look how many women have more than one baby!

Post # 24
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

Cory_loves_this_girl:   yeah I gotta agree. Most women arent very interested in sex during pregnancy.  I actually think the ones whose sex drives go crazy are a minority.  Falling asleep on the couch at 9pm every night for 9 mos is super sexy 🙂  I thought sex was uncomfortable during pregnancy, even in the 2nd trimester. Not size wise but there is a lot of blood flow to the area and sex was almost too much for me. Like it was way too sensitive for it to feel great.

Post # 25
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2008 - County courthouse

We didn’t even wait a week to have sex. But I had a c section, not a vaginal birth.

Post # 26
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I haven’t had a baby, but my best friend told me the doctor gave her 8 weeks because of some minor issues she had. Apparently her Fiance was pleading with her to go for it at 7 weeks and they did. Everything was fine.

Post # 27
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

ana2017:  so far pregnancy has changed things a bit.  At some point in my life Id have said libido would never be a problem, but there are days in the first trimester that I was so tired to the bone or sick that sleep was the only thing I could think of.  We know it will change when we are tired with a newborn.  DH’s friend who has been married 10 years said that they’ve gone from 3-4x per week to 3-4 times per month with a newborn and they we both OK with it.  I’m sure it will change again as they the baby gets older and they are less exhausted.  It seems a little scary to think about it when you aren’t pregnant yet, but things are just kind of guided by our bodies. 

Post # 29
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: NJ

A friend of mine didn’t even wait, it was less than a week she bragged about being back in the game.

She had problems with her episiotomy healing. She wished she had waited.

Post # 30
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Buzzing Beekeeper

My doctor said 6 weeks OR until bleeding had stopped.  Mine stopped after about 10 days, we waited 3 weeks. I had a c-section though, so I had very little bleeding after the first 48 hours.

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