Sex after baby… (possibly tmi)

posted 1 month ago in Babies
Post # 2
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2017

Lube! And LOTS of it. Take it slow, it hurt me the first few times but it gets better. Something to do with estrogen levels after pregnancy. GL.

Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

Kslim13 :  You’re still very newly postpartum, your hormones are in a weird place! Are you breastfeeding? I’m told that can also exacerbate the problem. I was still having extreme dryness and pain at 14 weeks pp and lube was not helping at all, so my doc prescribed a low dose estrogen cream and that helped tremendously. 

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

While I’d say things got a lot better after a couple months, I’ll be honest and say things weren’t completely comfortable until a few weeks ago at almost 10 months pp. however, I had a vaginal delivery and some stitches which may not have helped. My friend had a c section and was feeling back to normal closer to 4 months, and also swore by a ‘vaginal moisturizer’ rather than lube (I didn’t find it helped me as much, I think my issue was more scar tissue than hormones).

I did find that things got more comfortable the more often we tried, and that any longish breaks would mean more pain again. Good luck!

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

Kslim13 :  I think the estrogen cream is supposed to bring you back to a better hormonal state- more moisturized and “supple.” My doc said postpartum hormones can make your vagina similar to a menopausal vagina. 

Post # 7
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Busy bee

For the first little bit your Darling Husband is going to have to step-up the foreplay. More 2nd/3rd base and less homeruns. Combine that with lots of lube etc. and you should be in a better place. You could also try a slim vibrator to help loosen things up. It’s not the greatest example but if you think about fisting, eventually with enough lube, massage and play, a fist could fit inside you. Your hubby needs to take a similar approach until everything is back to normal. For me, I needed like to be super, super turned on, have 30-60 minutes of foreplay, a vibrator and lots of lube. I had a terrible vaginal birth and it was a war zone down there, so there was no homeruns for a really long time. I echo PPs when they say that it’s still early. 

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2007 - City, State

I’m 3 weeks pp from a csection and honestly I’m just scared that an orgasm is gonna hurt. It never did after my other babies so idk why this time I’m worried. My urethra still feels bruised though.

Post # 9
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Busy Beekeeper

Kslim13 :  wine and lube. We tried for the first time 4 months PP (vagina birth with tearing) and it was so tight and painful I was scared to try again until about 9 months pp. It took a few times but it did go back to normal! 

Post # 10
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Bumble bee

Wow, 8 weeks…you’re lucky!  It took me a year to be able to have sex again!!

Post # 11
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Bumble Beekeeper

I had the opposite problem. Feels like a hot dog in a giant cave. Sigh. 

Post # 15
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

I’m not sure where you’re located, but seeing a pelvic floor physio might help you a lot. They’re trained to help with painful sex and helping to re-set muscle tone (if tissues are too tight, not strong enough, working asymmetrically etc). They have a lot of education and exercises, tips etc. A huge part of their caseloads tend to be postpartum women for exactly these reasons! I think it’s France where the government funds like 10 pelvic PT sessions for all pregnant/postpartum women but I feel like in other countries it’s not something many know about! 

(I’m a PT and I feel like just because it might be “common/normal” postpartum, doesn’t mean there aren’t things to do to help!)

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