Post # 1
I have my 6 week follow up apt. tomorrow so it’s been on my mind! I’m emotionally ready, but terrified of the pain. I had a 2nd degree tear so my girly parts have been through a lot. So, 2 questions for you moms:
1) How lond did you wait to have sex after child birth?
2) Did it hurt?!
Post # 3
I waited the 6 weeks and then some. One word for you- LUBE:)
Post # 4
I waited longer than I should have because I think it got worse. It hurt terribly and honestly think if I had tried earlier despite my fears it would have been better. Seriously, foreplay and lube!
Post # 5
I only waited two and a half weeks and it didn’t hurt at all. But I had a remarkably easy birth with no tearing or damage.
Post # 6
I am dreading this as well. I’m pregnant right now, and honestly the thought of sex after birth makes me cringe. I know that sounds awful! But I wonder if I’ll even want it, and I know that’s not fair to my husband!!
I’m curious to hear what others mama’s say about this as well…
Post # 7
I had to wait 2 months.. 1 month ripped open c~section.. they dont want you to do much until it seals .. then after i was “good to go” I started having my period again ..yes I was strictly breast feeding but my period came back.. started stopped started stopped.. ..but since I didn’t have him naturally… my first time afterwards was ok.. just more scared than anything.. so I didn’t enjoy it as much as I could
Post # 8
We only waited six weeks and it didn’t hurt at all. I had maybe 1/4″ episiotomy cut and I guess i healed fast. Just be prepared that things are never the same down there. I had a friend who told me she purposely had her doctor schedule a C so she wouldn’t have an “exploding vagina”. lol
Post # 9
@PutABirdOnIt: please expand on the term “exploding vagina”….as if I wasn’t terrified of pregnancy/birth before!
Post # 10
I waited a year and the 1st time hurt =( I did tear very badly though (my son was 9lbs 6.4oz and I pushed before they told me to, his head came out okay… the shoulders, not so much)… next baby will be c-section.
Post # 11
@penguinsaremyfriends: and @dchokiebride3: I told my husband and he already went out to buy the lube!
@ohheavenlyday: It’s nice to hear a good birth and after birth story. Hopefully I’ll be able to say the same 🙂
@miss-spunkin: I know I’m rare that I actually want it. Considering I’m exhausted all the time, still have my baby weight and stretch marks, always covered in spit up and never have time to shower. Luckily my hubby doesn’t seem to mind all that!
@Sage Marie: I didn’t think about getting my period. What bad timing!
@PutABirdOnIt: Oy, the joys of childbirth. But they’re always worth it!
@HappilyEverAfter54: Wow that’s a big baby! Mine was 8 lbs 13 oz, so big enough to cause some damage. I still feel it a little bit if I’m in a weird position… which I’m thinking is a bad sign.
Post # 12
@colors: I had some level of discomfort for a long time. I’m not sure why, and I also had discharge for a long time (it seemed like to me at least.) I’m telling you though, I think it’s better if you try it earlier rather than waiting out of fear…it just gets worse I’m convinced! Next time around, I’m trying much earlier! 🙂
Post # 13
SAY WHAT! She’s crazy. There is NO exploding vagina. It goes right back to how it was.
Post # 14
I think we probably waited till 7 or 8 weeks. I had a couple of tears that needed stitching, but nothing super dramatic. The first time was definitely uncomfortable (second the recs for foreplay, lube, taking it slow, etc.) but by the second or third time we had no problems. DS is now 5 months, and while there’s one position that’s still a tad bit uncomfortable (not that bad, but a tiny bit of discomfort whereas before baby there was none), in general things are totally fine and we’ve been having sex more often since having a baby than we were for the year beforehand. So go figure.
Post # 15
not the effect you’re going for I’m sure but thank you for just reiterating how my plans for a C Section are SUCH a good idea.
Oh dear 🙁
ETA: Before ya’ll go jumping all over me I have three reasons why the Docs think I should have one anyways, so I’m good to go on it.