Post # 1
I know this is a total long shot, but anyone here ever have a miscarriage and trouble adjusting to sex afterward?
I love my Darling Husband and he loves me, and he’s been so supportive. But I just feel totally disconnected from my sexual self. It’s been six weeks since I started feeling like this and it’s starting to wear on our marriage. Anyone else experience this?
Post # 2
I have no been in your position, so take or leave my advice 🙂
just wanted to say Im so sorry you’re going through this.
I am sure it is very natural and common to feel a sexual disconnect after something like a MC, I am equally sure it is very difficult and straining. When a friend had a MC, she asked her Dr when she would start TTC again and he told her “Your body will heal and be ready before your heart and head”.
Do not push yourself before you are ready, keep open communication with your husband, and probably a good idea to book an appt with your OBGYN or Dr, or a specialist for counselling to talk about your feelings/follow up.
I really dont think 6 weeks is “too long” to feel like this though, I would say it is totally reasonable.
Post # 3
Give yourself and Darling Husband time and the space to grieve this sad loss. It is fully natural for libido and other interests to decline and even disappear at this low and challenging time. It may take a few months not just weeks to again feel any hope and sense of optimism about the future. Hang in there, it can also make your bond with Darling Husband stronger.
Post # 4
It’s completely normal to disconnect for a while. I can’t say for sure how many weeks it took for me to want sex again after I miscarried. I do know it was longer than a month. Probably closer to 6-8 weeks and it wasn’t our “normal” sex at first. We took it slower than usual without being too Too Much Information.
We connected in other ways during that time.. We stayed home a lot (I didn’t leave the couch for a week and then on after I didn’t see any friends for a month). We would watch some of our favorite shows together and eat our guilty pleasures. We really bonded a lot stronger during our healing. You seem to have a awesome supportive husband, too. Try and connect in other ways with him and I am sure he will understand. HUGS!
Post # 5
Sorry for your loss. I haven’t been in that situation either so take anything I say with a grain of salt too. At this point I would suggest just making sure you have some intimate time with Darling Husband regularly – kissing, cuddling, laying together on the couch, laying in bed together wrapped up just talking etc. Just to make sure that disconnect doesn’t extend to between you as a couple. Then see how you feel about sex in another month and go from there.