Oh boy, me and my horror stories. I first want a disclaimer: I LOVE my roommates-they can piss me off to no end, but in the end, I love them dearly.
I am currently finishing my Junior year of college. SO and I have been together for about, two and a half years. During this time of dating, I’ve transitioned from living in a dorm and sharing the room with another girl (an insane one, I might add) to living in an apartment with three other girls. During all of this time, SO and I made sure to always be respectful in all outlets. When we had sex freshmen year, we would only do it when we knew our roommates (who shared a room with us) where in class, with friends, out, etc, so that they didn’t need to come into the room. We never spent the night at each others place (unless we knew our roommates to be sleeping somewhere else) because we considered that highly disrespectful.
When I moved into my apartment, I got my own room and my own bathroom, which one roommate across from me, and the other two on the opposite end. When we know no one is home (he lives in a house) we are loud. We take advantage of the fact that we’re the only ones there, because that HARDLY ever happens. However, when roommates are home (whether at his place or mine) we close and lock the door, put a blanket along the bottom (to muffle some sound) turn on the bathroom fan, and (if it isn’t late and my roommates aren’t asleep) we’ll play some music. Even with all of those added precautions, we are still as silent as we can be. My bed is notorious for making loud noices, so we will move to the floor so that my roommates don’t hear. My roommates have always raved about how considerate we are, when it comes to that stuff.
However, one of my roommates is ridiculous. When she got in a relationship last year, her and her BF would have sex at 2 in the morning, and she’d be screaming (she’s a screamer, I guess) when my room was right next to hers. It was digusting. Finally, I sat her and her boyfriend down and basically said, ‘You have a right to have fun, you’re paying for this apartment, but so am I. For you to be as loud as you are is extremely disrespectful and digusting, and I won’t deal with it.” Her boyfriend has his own house, so why they don’t have loud sex there is beyond me. She got a little better, but she’ll still pretty bad. If she keeps it up, I’ll probably mention in again and not be as nice this time, because it’s gross.
SO and I are very considerate of our noise level.