(Closed) Sex Before Marriage….?

posted 8 years ago in Intimacy
  • poll: Sex before marriage?
    Let's just say we have kids together. : (6 votes)
    2 %
    We've done it, wish I would have waited : (12 votes)
    5 %
    We've done it and I couldn't be happier : (186 votes)
    72 %
    Im waiting and have been!!!! : (40 votes)
    16 %
    I prefer not to answer :) : (2 votes)
    1 %
    Umm...? : (1 votes)
    0 %
    Not my first marriage : (6 votes)
    2 %
    Became celibate since proposal : (5 votes)
    2 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    5494 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2011

    hahaha  this is hilarious.  parents can be so purposefully blind sometimes.

    Post # 5
    Member
    5263 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2012

    R’s grandma is really sensitive about this yet somehow brings it up often! R and I live together, but one time on a family vacation she threw a fit when R’s mom assumed we’d sleep in the same bed. Also, when we told her we were engaged she said, “oh! you’re planning a short engagement?” when we said long, she looked so disappointed!

    She’s a good sport, but I think it’s funny how concerned she is for our morals because to me it’s such a non-issue. I know for a lot of people it’s important though. The funny thing is R is the only guy I’ve ever been with, and the only guy I ever plan on being with, so not promiscuous by any standards. 

    Post # 7
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    5263 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2012

    @DIY Rae: 

    Yesyesyes and it irks me to no end. It happened more when we were younger, because we started dating at 14. All through high school people told us we should break up, date other people, etc. But we were happy, worked through problems, and I just had this feeling that he was the one. 

    People we know don’t really ask me anymore how I know I really love him, but I’ve had acquaintances and even random people I’ve just met tell me that. I get a lot of, “how do you know there’s no one else out there?” which really isn’t logical because you could never date every possible marriage prospect out there. Luckily we have time on our side (been together 5 1/2 years) so that tends to quiet at least some people. 

    Another one is, “you’ll want to sow your oats later” – um, just because you did/do doesn’t mean I will. I much prefer my love- and passion-filled relationship to a one night stand that would sow any oats. 

    Post # 9
    Member
    7779 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper

    My personal philosophy is that you gotta try it before you buy it. lol

    Nothing at all against those who choose otherwise. I respect everyones personal choices.

    Post # 11
    Member
    1184 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    We tried to be celibate since our proposal, but the flesh is weak. We are trying to stay ‘pure’ till we get married. We’re doing pretty good so far.

    Post # 13
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    1184 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    So you two have a kid together? Do you also live together?

    Post # 15
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    1184 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    Oh I see. My bro and my Future Sister-In-Law are in the same situation as you probably are in they’re engaged, living together and have a baby. They don’t quite have the date set as far as I know. I mean it would be kind of hard for my bro to leave his gf and baby move out and both of them remain celebate until they get married or stay in the house and sleep in different beds. Not saying he does these things, but I would probably talk to him about trying this although the conversation would be a little awkward. (way too awkward to actually happen). But is that what your dad thinks you guys should do?

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