Post # 1
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Busy bee
Just for fun, a silly poll to get us through hump day. The title pretty much says it all. Share as many gory details as you want!
DH first told me he loved me on Halloween, 2005, after a few too many drinks. (Half an hour later he was offering his devotions to the porcelain god–ah, college romance.) We’d been sleeping together for ~3 weeks and fell for each other pretty hard and fast, but apparently it took some serious liquid courage for him to get the words out 
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Post # 3
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Bumble bee
@mrssrm: He told me a few weeks in, after he asked me to be his g/f, lol. I kept that man waiting for months before we had sex, hehe 🙂
Post # 5
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Bumble Beekeeper
Oops I voted wrong (story of my life lol). I thought you were asking if I said I love you before or after, I said it after. My husband has been in love with me since before I even knew he liked me (we met online playing WoW). I guess sex is just really important to me, so I don’t know if I’ll love someone romantically until after I have sex with them.
Post # 6
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Bumble bee
@mrssrm: My sweetheart and I hooked up plenty before we said ‘I love you.’ But… we knew within about 2 weeks of dating that we wouldn’t be dating anyone else for the rest of our lives.
Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
We had been together over a year before SO said I love you … and yes we had sex way before then!
Post # 8
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Busy Beekeeper
With my DH, we said our “I love you’s” before we had sex. It definitely made it more special to me 🙂
Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
Well after… we had been together for 7 months before we said I love you and we had been intimate for pretty much that whole time. We were long distance for 6 months of the relationship so I think that had a little to do with the wait to say “I love you.”
Post # 10
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Helper bee
We were FWB before we got together as a couple so sex way before we said ‘i love you’ however we had been very good friends before so would ‘love you’ but weren’t ‘in love’
Post # 11
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Honey bee
I entirely dispise the idea of “making a man wait for a fuck” We had sex on the first date. I didn’t know his last name, I liked him, I wanted to screw him, he liked me, he wanted to screw me, so we did. We said “I love you” 3 months after having sex for the first time.
Post # 12
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Bumble bee
@mrssrm: FI and I met at a party, where we were pretty (OK, a lot intoxicated). He had just moved next door to the party thrower. One thing led to another, and we well, we slept together that very.same.night. I definitely suspected I was going into a one-night stand situation, and at that point, did not care 🙂
The next morning, we chatted for a bit (can you say AWKWARD!), and I told him I needed to go, as I was meeting a friend to watch the football game and have lunch (I wanted to get outta there anyways, and not linger). He asked if he could join along too? At that point, I found it a bit odd that he wanted to hang out, but since I did not want to be the b*tch, agreed.
I am so glad I agreed, because from that moment on, we were inseperable. Six weeks later we were officially a couple, and 4 months after that, we said ‘I love you’ for the first time. Not a storybook romance by any means, but definitely ‘perfect’ in my book!
Post # 13
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Bumble bee
@mrssrm: Oooh, looks like I am in the minority here. FH told me he loved me long before we had sex. I wouldn’t have had it any other way.
Post # 14
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Buzzing Beekeeper
We had sex first. He told me he loved me very early though and we were engaged after 3 months.
ETA: I don’t think sex and love have to go together. I certainly haven’t loved every man I’ve had sex with – and it was still great sex!
Post # 15
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Sugar bee
We had sex first. A month later we said I love you 🙂
Post # 16
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Sugar bee
Well, I was FI’s first girlfriend and we started dating April our senior year of high school. I told him I loved him the night before he was leaving for college (so just shy of 5 months of dating). I had known for longer but was nervous and figured I had nothing to lose since he was leaving anyway. He told me he loved me too.
We had sex after we’d been together for 9 months. We were each other’s firsts, and we were also away at school, so it took longer than it might have otherwise.