(Closed) Sex before the wedding – Did you put it on hold ’til the wedding night?

posted 7 years ago in Intimacy
  • poll: Did you and your FI hold off on doing the naughty before the wedding?
    Yes : (25 votes)
    32 %
    No : (43 votes)
    55 %
    We've never had sex with each other : (10 votes)
    13 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    2065 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: December 2011

    Ohhh definitely not. I’m counting on using sex as a stress reliever these next few weeks! So far it’s working!

    Post # 5
    Member
    5093 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: January 2012

    We plan to go six and a half weeks without (beginning December 1st).  Not sure how it’s going to work, but I hope it does!

    Post # 6
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    3378 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: December 2011

    Ha, I jokingly suggested it to Fiance and he was NOT in favor.  I’m in agreement, I think I need that stress relief over the next two weeks πŸ™‚

    Post # 7
    Member
    69 posts
    Worker bee

    @GreenEyedMoon: why siz & a half week???

    Im not married yet but I plan on holding off maybe a month or 2 weeks just so that night can seem a lil specials cuz who really waits till their wedding night nowadays…this way im like a born again…lol

    Post # 8
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    536 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: March 2012

    We made a comittment at the 7 month mark!! We are 4 months down and three more to go! Helllllppppp Meeeeeeeee!!!

    Post # 9
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    5093 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: January 2012

    @gonnabee_Mrs.BMW:  I wanted it to be more than just a couple weeks.  We randomly decided that the beginning of Advent seemed as good a time as any.

    Post # 10
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    395 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    We waited one week, and it made a BIG difference! Darling Husband said I was “tighter” on our wedding night.  The longer you abstain, I think it shrinks back up just a little. 

    Post # 11
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    214 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    @TheJeanses2012: That’s ambitious! I was thinking in the new year so it would be 4.5 months but there is NO way he’ll agree to that.

    Post # 12
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    1434 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: February 2010

    We didn’t put it on hold on purpose….it’s just that we were so busy and stressed a week befre the wedding that it didn’t happen…and our houses were filled with out-of-town guests so…yeah…Got no “us time”. But it was made up for beleive you me πŸ˜‰

    Post # 13
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    2759 posts
    Sugar bee

    What I’ve learned from most of my married friends is that the “wedding night” is usually one where the couple collapses from exhaustion rather than a pleasureful evening. I mean, it makes sense… the wedding and reception take everything out of you, who wants to stay awake longer and summon the energy to do it? lol.

    Like someone said above, I’ll probably be using sex as a stress reliever during the days and weeks leading up to.

    Post # 14
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    1542 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2012

    I don’t want to but since we don’t live together maybe we’ll end up doing it (or not doing it) anyways =S.

    Post # 15
    Member
    1088 posts
    Bumble bee

    @CherryWaves: ugh you’re a lucky lady!!! haha I wish my Fiance had that idea too!!! I want to try that, to put off sex for like a month before the wedding because I think that will build up so much excitement πŸ™‚ even when we don’t do it for 2 weeks because we’re so busy with school/work, it’s so exciting and I want it to feel like that on the wedding night! I think it’s a great idea πŸ™‚

    I know we will at least not have sex for a week before the wedding because we’ll be in school since our wedding will be at the beginning of our spring break so at least we’ll go a week without ;p but good luck to you and all the bees putting off sex πŸ™‚

    Post # 16
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    6349 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2014

    Personall6, i don’t understand this. By the time we marry, we’ll have been together 8 years and had sex thousands of times. I don’t think abstaining for a couple of weeks will make it any more ‘special’. Plus in all honesty I think we’l be too tired on the night anyway; we have exclusive use of our venue (a luxury hotel) and plan to party until the early hours; we’ve had sex a thousand times before so can happily wait until the following day lol.

     

    each to their own of course, but I have never understood the concept of ‘abstaining’ when you’ve already had sex with someone

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