Post # 1
Fiance had an idea last night – with 2 weeks before the wedding, he thought we should put off having sex until the wedding night (or next morning). At first, I thought he was joking, but he was serious! Now, we’re not habitual humpers. We’ve gone 3 weeks without doing the naughty… but because we either couldn’t see each other or my monthly friend was visiting. Maybe we’ll try it out, we’ll see how long we can last…
So, out of curiousity, did you and your Fiance make some sort of pact/decision to hold off on sex ’til the wedding night? Reasons why? And if so, for how long?
Post # 3
Ohhh definitely not. I’m counting on using sex as a stress reliever these next few weeks! So far it’s working!
Post # 4
@misspeanut: LOL! That’s what I was kind of thinking…
Post # 5
We plan to go six and a half weeks without (beginning December 1st). Not sure how it’s going to work, but I hope it does!
Post # 6
Ha, I jokingly suggested it to Fiance and he was NOT in favor. I’m in agreement, I think I need that stress relief over the next two weeks 🙂
Post # 7
@GreenEyedMoon: why siz & a half week???
Im not married yet but I plan on holding off maybe a month or 2 weeks just so that night can seem a lil specials cuz who really waits till their wedding night nowadays…this way im like a born again…lol
Post # 8
We made a comittment at the 7 month mark!! We are 4 months down and three more to go! Helllllppppp Meeeeeeeee!!!
Post # 9
@gonnabee_Mrs.BMW: I wanted it to be more than just a couple weeks. We randomly decided that the beginning of Advent seemed as good a time as any.
Post # 10
We waited one week, and it made a BIG difference! Darling Husband said I was “tighter” on our wedding night. The longer you abstain, I think it shrinks back up just a little.
Post # 11
@TheJeanses2012: That’s ambitious! I was thinking in the new year so it would be 4.5 months but there is NO way he’ll agree to that.
Post # 12
We didn’t put it on hold on purpose….it’s just that we were so busy and stressed a week befre the wedding that it didn’t happen…and our houses were filled with out-of-town guests so…yeah…Got no “us time”. But it was made up for beleive you me 😉
Post # 13
What I’ve learned from most of my married friends is that the “wedding night” is usually one where the couple collapses from exhaustion rather than a pleasureful evening. I mean, it makes sense… the wedding and reception take everything out of you, who wants to stay awake longer and summon the energy to do it? lol.
Like someone said above, I’ll probably be using sex as a stress reliever during the days and weeks leading up to.
Post # 14
I don’t want to but since we don’t live together maybe we’ll end up doing it (or not doing it) anyways =S.
Post # 15
@CherryWaves: ugh you’re a lucky lady!!! haha I wish my Fiance had that idea too!!! I want to try that, to put off sex for like a month before the wedding because I think that will build up so much excitement 🙂 even when we don’t do it for 2 weeks because we’re so busy with school/work, it’s so exciting and I want it to feel like that on the wedding night! I think it’s a great idea 🙂
I know we will at least not have sex for a week before the wedding because we’ll be in school since our wedding will be at the beginning of our spring break so at least we’ll go a week without ;p but good luck to you and all the bees putting off sex 🙂
Post # 16
Personall6, i don’t understand this. By the time we marry, we’ll have been together 8 years and had sex thousands of times. I don’t think abstaining for a couple of weeks will make it any more ‘special’. Plus in all honesty I think we’l be too tired on the night anyway; we have exclusive use of our venue (a luxury hotel) and plan to party until the early hours; we’ve had sex a thousand times before so can happily wait until the following day lol.
each to their own of course, but I have never understood the concept of ‘abstaining’ when you’ve already had sex with someone