Post # 1

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Buzzing Beekeeper
Did any of you ever worry about having sex during the 1st trimester. I know its silly but for some reason I think with the baby being so small that having sex might affect it somehow. Did you guys carry on as normal or slow it down during pregnancy especially 1st trimester
Post # 3

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Sugar bee
Its totally safe. Actually I suggest having sex while you can, because it could get awkward, and uncomfortable the bigger you get ( Kind like the pregnant sex scene, in “Knocked Up”. It did for me anyways.
Post # 4

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Buzzing Beekeeper
Haha yeah I can imagine it getting awkward eventually…
Post # 5

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Bumble bee
I wasn’t worried, but we didn’t carry on as usual… First off, the nausea and fatigue made me feel less than sexy. Then, when we did it, I had spotting so the doctor told us to hold off for three weeks. Finally, my lady parts were so engorged with new blood that intercourse was very uncomfortable for me, and also couldn’t stand being touched there.. This first trimester was awful because we always had an active and fulfilling sex life and it was just so unappealing for a while. But luckily enough, the second trimester came by and all those troubles went away and we are enjoying sex again. 🙂
Post # 6

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Busy bee
I haven’t been too worried (though maybe a little) but we definitely slowed down a lot. We actually just recently had sex for the first time in like 3 weeks, I think. I just have not been feeling it at all- feeling too tired, sick, gross, etc. I hope my sex drive comes back in 2nd tri.. we’ll see!
Post # 7

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Bee Keeper
we just use more lube and do it when i don’t feel sick. haha.
Post # 8

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Busy bee
You can’t hurt the baby… the only thing is that you can end up with some (harmless) spotting. That happened to me and the OB told me to lay off the intercourse for a little while, which was fine because it was honestly the last thing I felt like doing during first trimester. Then second trimester came around and I had the sex drive of a horny fifteen year old boy. It was nuts.
Post # 9

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Buzzing Beekeeper
I think I’m just worried about every tiny thing. Nobody warned me that pregnancy was just one big worry party
Post # 10

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Bee Keeper
Do it!! Its good for you, its safe for the baby. Your doctor will even tell you to do it. It does get a little uncomfortable after a while. Fiance and I stopped having sex about 4 weeks before our son was due just bc I was so uncomfortable. The way your are feeling is normal. You are worried for you and your new baby, you want eveything to go smoothly and be perfect. Oh and hate to break it to ya, but it doesnt really go away after you have your baby, I mean at least it didnt for me, I worry all the time, which probably isnt good but oh well I guess. We worry because we care, you just wait for your nesting to kick in and you will really feel crazy. lol
Post # 11

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Buzzing bee
We kept it up pretty normal the 1st and 2nd trimester. Now that we’re reaching the end (closing in on 35 weeks) we’ve slowed down a lot. It’s not exactly painful, but it is uncomfortable and I’m pretty self concious now about my size.
Post # 12

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Buzzing bee
ugh that was the last thing I wanted to do.
Post # 13

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Bumble bee
We haven’t, but it’s not because we were afraid (well, I’m not, DH is.) But I just don’t want to. During our TWW we were exhausted from all the trying, and after that, I just never really felt well enough to try to be in the mood.
I hope it comes back, but I have 2.5 weeks to go until my 2nd trimester, so I feel confident saying this whole first one is going to be a shutout.
Post # 14

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Buzzing Beekeeper
@organizedbride11: Hahaha now i know how my mom felt when I was growing up…
Post # 15

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Busy bee
I don’t want to threadjack, so please yell at me if I am, but since a lot of people are commenting here saying they kept it up close to the end, I can’t help but wonder what positions people do it in? I have heard laying down spooning and doggy but are those really comfortable when you are 6+ months pregnant???
Post # 16

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Bee Keeper
I spotted after the first time. Everything was okay, but we waited a while before we tried again. I was afraid to have sex again, but it took a while mostly because I felt too bad to be in the mood.