Post # 1
Ok ladies, this post is for those of you NOT having much sex in pregnancy.
(For those of you having lots of sex… good for you! Seriously!!)
Just wondering where everyone stands on this. How much? How often? Why not?
My hubs just doesn’t seem into it. And I was SUPER sick in my 1st trimester so I wasn’t really having it. Now that I’m in my 2nd trimester, I’m feeling much better, but no major sex drive. Combine that with the fact that my husband isn’t really into it, and I just feel sort of blah…
Post # 3
We didn’t really have much sex at all during my first tri. I was sick all of the time and the last thing I wanted to do was that. Then we started having more sex here and there during my second tri. However, over the last 2 weeks, I wake up raring to go! It’s kind of nuts how it just all of a sudden happened. This is Too Much Information, but every time I orgasm, I throw up after, so it’s kind of a catch 22 lol.
My hubs doesn’t have any issues, but at one point he wasn’t attempting to have sex with me. When I brought it up, it changed things. He was just over the rejection of the first tri I think.
Post # 3
Can I just say that you’re not alone? My husband is afraid to have sex with me. And that makes me feel like a total gross blob. I’m only 12 weeks, and I understand that he’s afraid he’ll hurt the baby, but good lord…he needs to get over it!
Post # 4
@2PeasinaPod: My Fiance was like that too. He wouldn’t let me sleep up against him because I was squishing the baby. I also go cramps after the big O in my third trimester so we really didn’t do it often.
Post # 5
Yeah, my husband has been scared to have sex w/ me since I hit somewhere around the halfway point when I really started showing. Before that I was really sick all the time, so not much sex during this pregnancy. I miss it!
Post # 6
Not much action in our house, here.
I was terrified of a m/c in first trimester, so we had sex occasionally.
Once I started showing, DH got weirded out (and he’s a doctor, so I find this odd) about it. So, we’re not having any now (29.5 weeks) and I doubt we will until after the baby is born. It’s more his decision than mine – it doesn’t help me in the feeling attractive dept, but on the other hand it’s not like I really feel like it that often either.
Despite this, we are probably closer than ever. We take baths together on the weekend and find other ways to feel connected.
Post # 7
We are just having it less often. I think we both just feel a bit less sexual these days but we get to it once a week and it’s great. I know many who had barely any sex during pregnancy though and they bounced back when the baby was around 6 months old or so so I think it’s just the change I. Our bodies and priorities that becomes and adjustment. Just value intimacy of any kind and make sure you are at least affectionate with each other.
Post # 8
1st trimester I was really scared so we slowed down, then 2nd trimester got a bit better, but now in the third trimester is just awkward I’m so achy everywhere I dont even bother anymore lol
Post # 9
Before I got pregnant we were at 2-3 times a week couple, then we tried to keep up about once a week through the 1st/2nd trimester. But we’ve dwindled down to about once every other week and really it’s only that often because I feel bad for DH. I am just not really ever in the mood, I’m tired and sex is awkward with my current body shape. DH doesn’t have any problem with pregnant sex though, I’m just not usually on board. I do have to say that pregnant orgasms have been super awesome though.
Post # 10
I just have to pop in and say that it’s funny you posted this thread, cuz I just logged on to post a poll about sex/pregnancy! LOL!
Our sex life hasn’t changed since pregnancy…but I think that part of it is because DH is one of those weirdos who finds pregnancy ridiculously sexy. He loves the boobs and the tight round belly!
Post # 11
I’m still in my 1st trimester and am very sick so it’s basically non-existant. Maybe 1x a week if he’s lucky lol. DH has more of a drive now than when we were TTC and he is so excited about having th baby and that my boobs have grown almost 2 sizes. I sort of feel bad but I am so sick and so tired it doesn’t look like it’s picking up anytime soon.
Post # 12
I’m due in a few days and we stopped having sex a good 3 months ago. I’m just not into it, at all. Not only am I as big as a house, making the logistics increadibly difficult, I just don’t feel good “down there.” Everyone keeps telling me to have sex now to induce labor but at this point, I’d rather down a pint of caster oil. 🙁
Post # 13
@winniewolf: oh man, a bath for us would definitely lead to frisky time.
I think taking a bath together (no sex) is so romantic!!!