Post # 1
This is a little embarrassing, but I have no one else to talk to about it…
I have been with my Fiance for three and half years, we had sex after 3 months, we always had a good sex life until the begining of this year.
The reason? It hurts! At first it was just uncomfortable but now its gotten to a whole other pain level. Whenever we try to have sex I have such intense pain ‘inside’ that I cry with pain!
I have been to the doctors twice. First doc suggested it was vaginismus (I think it will hurt, muscles contract so it does hurt) but suggested I see a female doc for an examination. A week later I saw the female doctor. She examined me, it hurt so much I was in tears, she said it wasn’t vaginismus and that I appear to be red and swollen inside. She sent off swaps for tests.
Another week later I go back to the female doctor for test results. Nothing. All tests came back clear. She tells me there is no STI (phew!) but that from her examination I must have some kind of infection so she perscribed a cream that she says will help.
I collect the cream and it says ‘FOR EXTERNAL USE ONLY’ hummmm. I ring the doctors and ask why I have an external cream for an internal problem, the doctor tells me there was inflamation on the outside too (not that I knew of!!) and to use the cream anyway for 3 weeks and ‘see how we go’.
Needless to say the cream appears to have no effect.
Mind you I wouldn’t know for sure because we have given up trying. Its just too difficult, I get upset, he gets upset and it hurts!
We try to do ‘other stuff’ but even that doesnt happen often often!
So now I have to go back to the doctors and have yet another painful examination, feeling pretty down about it at the moment.
Has anyone else had similar problems?
Post # 3
I’ve never had this problem.. but if there is a bacterial infection inside.. why didnt she just perscribe oral medication? First thought, penicillin. Does it hurt when you don’t have sex? as in..tampons and such? I think you need to get a second opinion.
Post # 4
I have no idea, I was surprised when she said cream but assumed doctor knows best, but then the external use only completely threw me!
It doesn’t hurt when not having sex but then I suppose I wouldn’t know as I have the implant and dont have periods at the moment so don’t have to use tampons. Im guessing even a tampon would hurt tho as the examination hurt so much as soon as she started it.
Yeah maybe a second..or third opinion is the way to go.
Post # 5
I don’t know if you use lubricants, but sensitivity to those can cause really bad pain/inflammation that takes a while to go away. I had that problem; I am sensitive to lubricants with flavoring and then pretty much anything latex/silicone. If you’re using condoms, maybe you’ve developed a latex allergy?
Try advil around the clock for a week or so (if you have a sensitive stomach, take an generic zantac to prevent acid build-up), because in addition to any infection, it sounds like you’ve got serious inflammation. FYI, prescription strength ibuprofen is the same as 4 regular advil, so you might just need more than the regular 2 every 4-6 hrs. Avoid all penetration until you get the inflammation under control and then after a week, try using your fingers ONLY. If no pain, then proceed with caution. If pain, even if it’s better than it used to be, stop and either keep up the advil if it seems to be working or seek a 2nd opinion. Good luck!
Post # 6
@roberts2b: Could it be possible that the implant could have something to do with it? Maybe its inflamed or something? I know I had a UTI once.. and didnt even know it until I went to the doctor (it never hurt) but it the problem got worse.. i am sure I would have been in a ton of pain. Second opinion for sure. I know this is way off, but some women are also allergic to their mate’s sperm.
Post # 7
I have never had this but wow I hope you feel better soon! You might want to try a different doctor, I wouldn’t want to use a cream for external use only inside myself, especially since there is a delicate balance inside the vagina and putting something there that shouldn’t be could really mess up the pH.
Post # 8
Thanks for all your replies.
We dont usually used lubricants, We did try using them but only after sex became unfomfortable to see it it would help. It didnt though.
Ill look into geting some advil, thanks 🙂
The implant is in my arm so doubt it will effect it, also it was hurting before I got the implant.
I hadnt considered the possibility of being allergic to his sperm, I may mention that on my next visit to the doctors, even if just to rule it out. 🙂
I havent been using the cream internally, I ranga nd spoke to a diffent doc who said to use it externally, but I dont see how that will help the internal problem. I used it fo a week or so then stopped, The cream is a horrible thick consistancy and is yellow in colour, it doesnt smell nice eiether. So i stopped using it. Ill book another appointment tomorrow.
Post # 9
@roberts2b: Sorry to hear that! I can totally relate. This sort of happened to me recently. The pain was sooo bad. I went to the doc and she prescribed a cream that really didnt help much.
But she said it may have been an allergy I had developed recently, and suggested me to not use anything down there, no tampons, daily liners, lubricants, no oral, nothing for a couple of weeks and see what happened.
I tried that and it helped a lot and also made me realize I am really sensitive down there. Maybe you can try that?? Hope it helps, I KNOW it is super frustrating!
Post # 10
Sorry, to hear that. I would definitely go back to the doctors because someting is going on. It could just be a vaginal infection that is affecting outside of your vagina but you need a better explaination why its not for internal. Go make another appt and if your doctor isn’t available, you can always setup a nurse partiticioner. Explain all of your concerns. Be graphic and provide a pain scale. Nothing is Too Much Information or embarrasing.
I was in a similar situation about 15yrs ago. My first doctor didn’t diagnosis me correctly, but my 2nd doctor did. That’s when I discovered that its better to discuss any and all changes instead of deciding it would be 2 embarrassing.
Post # 11
I have had the same problem for me however I have given birth 2 1/2 years ago and that messed up my vagina muscles. I went to physical therepy for 8 months now I’m good just do vagina exercises regularly
Post # 12
I can totally relate to this. I don’t have the same experience as you, however. It also is nothing new for me, as I have been experiencing on & off pain during intercourse since I became sexually active. I’m going to make a doc appointment soon, because currently I am grinning and bearing it during sex, as I refuse to omit sex from my relationship. Rather uncomfortable, and a huge blow to the self-esteem..
Post # 13
Try some yeast infection medicine! Just buy some over the counter Monistat incase its a yeast infection, they are known to cause pain during sex.
Post # 14
@roberts2b: yea i have that problem sometimes. not to pry, but do you have any sort of stomach/intestinal problems? unfortunately i do. i have gastritis which is stomach inflammation. i’ve managed to control it with diet but every now and then i have little episodes of pain and extreme bloating.
anyway i just recently went to the gyno for my yearly and everything was fine. i mentioned the painful sex and she said it could very well be my stomach problems and explained that the anus sits right next to the vaginal wall, etc.. and the act of sex disrupts the stomach to say the least lol
Post # 15
Go to the doctor.Would rather be safe then sorry.
Post # 16
Does it hurt all the time or just at a certain point during sex?
It hurts for me after I orgasm, which I talked to my gyno about and found out is actually normal for many women, but she said it shouldn’t hurt before the point of orgasm.