(Closed) Sex in the 3rd trimester… who’s having it and how?!?

posted 8 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

@KatyElle:  Ditto.  I’m on the bigger side for 24 weeks and my husband is a little weirded out. He’s not afraid – he just thinks it’s weird.

Between yeast infections, back bain, and my husband being weird about our son in between us, our sex life has taken a hit.  Currently on a 1x a month schedule (how sad) but I have a feeling it will fizzle out altogether in the 3rd tri.

Post # 17
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

After reading some of these posts, I realize how lucky I was! Fiance wasn’t weirded out at all by the baby or my belly up until pretty much the day before we went to the hospital to have the babies! He made me feel so beautiful even though I know I looked like a manatee 99% of the time. ๐Ÿ™‚

We were able to have sex all the way up to 39 weeks. In the end, it was just spooning, but I was able to enjoy it as long as I didn’t to TOO much or else I would get mad heartburn! lol

With our first 2 children my sex drive was heightened, but with our third I don’t believe it was any higher because I had a hernia that really put a damper on how I felt most of the time.

I have to add that I had normal pregnancies so there were no risks in having sex, otherwise I would have stopped. And the six weels after the baby it was hard to keep our hands off of each other! I think it’s like reverse psychology, we want it more because we’re not supposed to! ๐Ÿ™‚ I do advise waiting the full six weeks so your lady bits can heal ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 18
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Less than a week into third trimester and this weekend went well for sex (since preggers we only do it on the weekend: my negotiation).  I’m pretty lucky that baby never moves when I do, so that hasn’t been a factor between the sheets, but I will fully admit that I’m a little more picky so things are definitely more challenging for that reason.  Physically everything is working out though.

Post # 19
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

Well I had sex all through my pregnancy with no problems at all.

Just treat sex the same as before you wete pregnant. I had some large stretch marks on my belly so I kept my belly covered with my top, but had everything else ‘on display’.

I don’t know any men that haven’t wanted to have sex with their pregnant wives. Most men love the fullness it gives to your breasts, lol.

 

By The Way the six weeks after labor is CRAZY. Is oral pleasure allowed?? Le sigh.

6 weeks in the minimum to allow proper healing, but I know some people that have had sex at 4 because it was comfortable, but sex wasn’t really comfortable for me till about 10 weeks, and I still had the occasional pain for few months after.

As for oral, well you’re still bleeding for up to 6 weeks as well, so if you’re into that kind of thing, maybe?? But no, I would avoid it.

Post # 20
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

@BerryBerry:  

Good to know…and that would be a no on the bleeding…

Post # 21
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

I don’t have/plan on having kids, but I mentioned this to my Fi and this is what he said to me…”Oh god no! I don’t want my kids first memory of daddy to be being poked in the head by my penis!” ….
I laughed so hard, and clued him in to what exactly is wrong with that statement, anatomically or  other wise…..

 

Somedays I wonder about him….

Post # 22
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

@imalittlebirdie:  

Omg, so many men think they’llpoke the kid in the head!

Silly men, seriously, do they think their rogers are a foot long? Or that they poke into your uterus during sex?? Haha, it is very funny.

Post # 23
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Buzzing Beekeeper

@BerryBerry:  Isn’t that where dimples come from? Wink

Post # 24
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

@KatyElle: 

OMFG that is so wrong on so many levels…

 

Wow, never heard that one LOL!! Tongue Out

Post # 25
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

We had sex all the way through both pregnancies.  No issues or pain.  And yes my Sex Drive was really heightened while pregnant.

We found that even with a 9 month pregnant belly, most positions were still on the menu, even missionary.  Yes I guess the “mechanics” of it had to change a bit, but it was still enjoyable.

My Fiance did not have any issues about my belly, as long I wasn’t in pain then neither was the baby.

But my Fiance was also at the birth of our first child, and he had a front row seat…lol

So I guess if that doesn’t turn him off sex, then neither will something as small as a baby bump.

Post # 27
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Lol I love that women can discuss stuff like this. Congrats on sucess.

Post # 28
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

Haha, yeah, this is inspiring. Congrats on the success!! Maybe we will give it another go this weekend ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 29
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

We’ve been in a lull for about a month now. We just can’t seem to find our groove with my belly in the way and the fact that I have literally no desire for sex. I do truly miss the intimacy, but it just feels like so much work. And I swell terribly as soon as I manage to get turned on, which takes forever, and it makes it painful. My husband doesn’t want to hurt me, so we end up stopping. It doesn’t help that the baby always starts moving, either. This may be one of the things I’m most excited about for the future….normal sex with my husband. 

Post # 30
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Wannabee

I am almost 32 weeks. My husband still wants it all the time. Sometimes I can handle it and I’m excited like I was pre pregnancy, but others it hurts to much…. my main problem now is I’m super self concious of my boobs leaking but he says he doesn’t care. Does anyone else feel weird about this? But as far as the other comments I agree they were my husbands boobs first as funny as that sounds lol. My husband is too good to me for me to just tell him no.ย 

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