Post # 1
I’m adding a poll for those who would like to see stats but do not wish to post. Post whatever you’re comfortable with. 🙂 Also, any advice your doctor had related to sex during pregnancy. Just curious here.
I’m around 9 weeks and my sex drive is pretty much gone due to morning sickness. Either I’m really turned on but know that any kind of intimacy is a terrible idea due to stomach issues… or not at all and my drive is totally gone and replaced with equally bad urges to eat a bowl of chili cheese fries haha.
Oddly enough, sometimes sex is great- othertimes it’s just plain uncomfortable for me. Have you noticed any changes for you? To ladies post-baby or nearing the end of pregnancy- was there a trimester where sex was actually comfortable or good? Or not at all?
To those really brave- any tips that have helped?
Maybe this should be posted under intimacy… I wasn’t sure how many people would respond there being pregnant I haven’t checked that board out lately.
Post # 3
When I was pregnant, I hated our sex life…
During the first trimester I had nausea all the time. Then, as your body changes, you have more blood all over, included in your sensitive areas… For some women, it apparently makes sex awesome, but for me, I was just overly sensitive and any kind of stimulation was unpleasant. And in the end, it’s just hard to find comfortable positions and my sex drive was non existent. We still managed to do it like, once per week, but mostly because I felt we “had” to.
So.. yeah, I’m not a happy pregnant lady! On the other hand, Darling Husband was happy since he got a lot of BJ’s out of it! 🙂
Post # 4
Your second trimester is known as the “honeymoon trimester” because your first trimester symptoms should of subsided. And this is when your hormones are raging and it is a common belief this is when your sex drive increases.
My husband was devistated when it wasn’t the case for me. I popped at the 4 month mark. So I was already pretty big in my second trimester. Plus I worked long days throughout my entire pregnancy. So I had next to no sex drive.
Doctors say that during your third trimester some of your first trimester symptoms can come back. Luckily all I had was horribly heartburn (tums was my favorite snack) and I got leg cramps every night. But due to the fact of how huge i got (I am 5’3 and before I was preggers I was 100 lbs, I was 130 all belly going into my third trimester, I honestly looked like i was hiding a basketball under my shirt), I didn’t want my huuby to touch me I felt that unsexy. The only time it peaked was 2 weeks before I was due because I was trying to enduce labour. However, I went a week overdue and the only reason that I didn’t go longer is because the doctor enduced the labor.
TIP- During the last trimester the only way that I enjoyed it was doggy style.
Post # 5
Thanks for the info/advice! I’ve also noticed the cramping/discomfort. It seems sex is either really awesome or really terrible for me. I hope the 2nd trimester gets better! I feel bad for hubby as I only feel up for any kind of sex every two weeks or so.
edit: what has helped me with the cramping is to take a warm, not hot, bath before sex. I find my muscles cramp wayyy more easily in pregnancy than before I got my BFP, probably due to the extra progesterone.
Post # 6
Mine has totally changed. I’m 18 weeks and we’ve only had sex twice since we found out. My husband is among those who is totally freaked out that there’s a baby in there and is terrified that he’s poking the baby. I have assured him that there’s really no way he’s even close, but he still gets so freaked out he can’t get it out of his head while we try. I think now that we know we’re having a boy, it’ll just get worse. Sadly, I didn’t have a rough first trimester and was kind of frisky and we couldn’t really do anything about it.
Post # 7
We have a lot less sex, only because we were having a lot of sex when we were trying. I’d say that we are intimate 2x a week now, having sex at least once. It’s not great for me, a little uncomfortable “down there” but I like feeling Once i get connected that way. Once I get bigger, we’ll have to take another look =)
Post # 8
I have NO sex drive right now. Ditto what Mommytobe said. My husband has been understanding and hasn’t seemed to mind. We laughed about the fact that we had sex ZERO times in October. Sigh. Maybe now that I am not so sick (but still very sensitive down yonder).
Post # 9
Personally I hardly enjoyed sex my entire pregnancy. I never felt great from being tired and sick so sex just wasn’t on my mind. When we actually had sex, the act felt good but it was just getting to that point. I wasn’t really at all turned on and didn’t even enjoy making out with Darling Husband. But now a little over 2 weeks post partum, while I am still in pain and not ready to have sex, my sex drive it back. My extreme sexual attraction to Darling Husband has returned, so for me it was just a temporary lull.
Post # 10
It has definitely changed for me. I found out we were pregnant pretty much days after the wedding. Before the wedding, it was nearly everyday for us. After the wedding, once morning sickness kicked in, it was maybe once a week. Once I hit my second trimester, my sex drive came back in full force. So we’re now maybe 2-3x a week. Having a belly now certainly makes it awkward. Darling Husband is afraid of putting too much weight on me or hurting the baby in some way.
Post # 11
We had a fairly active sex life pre-pregnancy which dwindled a little first trimester and then ramped up in the second trimester. Now at 32 weeks its defnitiley more difficult and a lot less frequent than it was before. There are only a few positions that work and I feel far from sexy which makes it a little more routine than fun/exciting…I actually told him the other day i can’t wait to have this baby so our sex life can get back to normal.
Post # 12
I stand at the kitchen sink and rub oil all over my belly every morning while my Darling Husband is cooking himself breakfast. As I rub the oil I say “I know what Mr Peanuthead likes” and do a little sexy dance – Ha! I think he’s a little freaked out about the growing belly. He says it’s weird like it’s not my body.
We’ve dwindled to about once a week. I’m into my 2nd trimester and still fairly sick so it’s tough to try to find a time where I feel good and we have the opportunity to get at it.
Post # 13
Ha ha. I guess we aren’t very “active” to begin with. We were more like a 1x per week couple before we started TTC. Then, of course more when we were TTC but both of us work full time, exhausting jobs so we usually only felt much like it on the weekends anyway. Now it is more like 1x per month. I would like to get back to normal…
Post # 14
Our sex life hasn’t been super active for quite a while (I’m kind of amazed I even got pregnant in the first place) so it hasn’t really changed much. I’m rarely in the mood, but I’m more sensitive to touch and I generally enjoy it once we’re actually doing it.
ETA: I’m at the beginning of my second trimester, if that matters.
Post # 15
At the beginning I wanted it all the time. Now it’s the opposite, I am also 36 weeks and sexy just isnt in my vocab.
Post # 16
Not until the third trimester and not in terms of frequency. We have just gotten more creative since sometimes I am just not comfortable. However, I really have no complaints and neither does he! Lol….