(Closed) Sex life issues.. :-

posted 6 years ago in Intimacy
Post # 3
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816 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

The pill MAJORLY messes with my sex drive. I can’t wait for the day I can get off it. But I also noticed when I gained some weight, my sex drive went down. A lot of the reason for that was because I couldn’t fit into most of my clothes, and hence, didn’t like the way I looked when going out. I would definitely talk to a doctor though, because I know how frustrating it can be when you want to have sex, but you can’t make yourself WANT to… ๐Ÿ™

Post # 4
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394 posts
Helper bee

First – I am sorry that you are going through this.

Secondly – The pill did probably made your hormones all wackadoo & I would try talking toa  doctor. If they don’t go away soon, there might be another underlying issue.

Have you ever had intimacy problems in the past? What was your sex life BEFORE birth control. Don’t feel crappy. Talk to your husband & let him know what’s going on. Maybe you should try buying yourself something sexy for him & see if that helps?

Post # 5
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Sugar bee

Definitely talk to him about it.

I think it’s probably a combination of the hormones still screwing with your libido and a lowered libido in general due to stagnancy over time – but you can definitely pick things back up!

Pick out some cute outfits and intimate clothes together (or go out with some girlfriends and buy something to surprise him with). Change up your routine – if you’re normally in sweats, then set a goal to dress up at least one day a week, even if you don’t really do anything. Sometimes on weekends I get dressed up and do my makeup, even if I’m not planning on going anywhere. It’s just a nice self esteem boost and I like the way it makes me feel.

Talk to your Darling Husband about each other’s fantasies. Maybe there’s a position or a location you’ve always wanted to try, or roleplaying. You can buy cheesy but fun “romance” board games online or from certain stores that give you direct ideas and questions to help spice things up.

If you can get yourself excited about sex again, then your libido will probably return and things will go back to normal ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 6
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Sugar bee

I will add – I was like this with my ex, both on the pill and off. He also suffered from depression, so we went around each other in cycles and it was really frustrating. The few times it really bumped back up were times we both started trying new things.

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