(Closed) Sex Life- VENT!!!!!!!

posted 8 years ago in Intimacy
Post # 3
165 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: February 2010

How have your lives changed since you exited “the honeymoon phase”? Could it be that you are both busy, hectic schedules, things that are making you more tired than usual? It likely has very little to do with you personally. My best advice is to talk to your SO – communicate, and if something happens to be a concern, you can talk it through, and it will get better.

Post # 4
11325 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

Have you talked to him about it? That would probably be a good first step. 

Post # 5
606 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I think the advice from both above is right.  It’s important to talk about these things, figure out what is going on, and maybe both decide to work on things together, whatever that may take! 

Post # 6
1750 posts
Buzzing bee

@LoveAndBliss:Haveyou tried to wear seductive evening wear to bed NIGHTLY. Invest in a few things to keep him interested and happy. Men are visually stimulated, do the things you did to peek his interest.

Post # 7
1480 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

I agree, have you talked about it with him? Maybe it’s not bothering him as much as you’re afraid it is. Maybe he’s also too tired or stressed or whatever.

Post # 8
661 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

Yeah, we’ve been together almost 8 yrs and believe me, its an ongoing battle.  lol  We do it 1-2 times a month as well.  But, to keep it interesting … we try different things (constantly!)

One thing you may want to do is surprise him with something that YOU’VE never done before (Ex: Wake him up in a “happy” way, or a toy you’ve never used before, or seducing him when he comes home from work … I’m not sure what you HAVEN’T done, so I’m throwing out ideas here).  Just the fact that you’re doing something he’s never seen you do will wow him enough.

Good luck!

Post # 9
565 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

sometimes, couples go through a “slump” try talking to him, and explain that you’d like to have sex more.  Maybe you should try a new position or a different place, something to spice it up. but, defiently talk to him.  is he stressed out?  has his libido gone down?  is he worried about something else?  it can be any number of things, just talk to him about it.

Post # 10
7431 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

We sometimes have to make a conscious effort to have sex, cuz our lives are really busy. We make a point of it on the weekends, at least, sometimes a surprise on the weekdays. but honestly, life is just crazy and sometimes its the very last thing on our minds. But we do try to keep the spark alive, and so far so good, and we’ve been together for 6.5 years

Post # 11
1545 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

@njm1313:I agree with nim1313 try “toys: I know Too Much Information but I recently went to a passion party got a few things just to try them out and BOY We both couldnt be happier. Its like we want to more than ever now. We hit a rough patch just like you and now its better.

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