(Closed) Sex Life

posted 8 years ago in Intimacy
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

To be honest, “rhythm of having frequent sex” kind of sounds not so good–like it’s on a schedule or something. And there really isn’t any “normal” when it comes to sex–especially in terms of frequency. Sometimes Darling Husband and I go for a couple weeks without sex; sometimes it’s several times a night! I find that my libido is also pretty in tune with my cycle (sorry if that’s tmi) and that Darling Husband also has cycles of his own as well. Sometimes we’re in sync and sometimes we’re not and that’s just how it is .

But is this a general lack of interest in sex? That’s different and it can be connected to your birth control–when I went on depo-provera, I lost my sex drive. Completely. So if that’s you, you might want to talk to your gyno.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@2shy2Bbf: You have to know what is a normal sex life for you. Me and my Fiance are in a long distance realtionship we see eachother every month for about 4-7 days when we do we have sex about 3-4 a day. But that is what is normal for us especially with the distance we try to get it while we can lol.

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

My Fiance and I were in a LDR for years–once we moved to the same town and in together, things did pick up. And then slow down because of our work schedules, pick up again, etc. I think it not only has to do with you and your Fiance and what is “normal” for you, but also accessibility.

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

OP: I think your assumptions are correct. Having frequent opportunities for sex means you’re going to take advantage of them more often. Just the difference between living together vs. living across town from each other was enough to add an average of 1-2 more times per week for my husband and me. If long distance is in the mix, that means that your current level is even lower than it would be if you were together more.

And your birth control could be affecting it too. He should understand that’s not your fault.

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