Post # 1
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1896 posts
Buzzing bee
TMI ALERT:
I love my husband. We have great sex. Enough that both of us are satisfied. But… I want “push me up against the wall, rip my clothes off,crazy, passionate sex”… The kind you see in movies. We use to have that, but not anymore… I want that! I want to feel like he can’t keep his hands off of me, and can’t get enough of me…
How do I get him to be that way again!? I don’t want just a good fuck, but love making, but uncontrollable love making…
Post # 3
Hostess
12103 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
@graygodess20: we used to be like that, about 8 years ago, and slowly we’ve ‘gotten lazy’ both of us.
Every now and then we can get super into it but generally we’re lazy – I’m with you, I’d love to have that back sometimes, but i can say that with FH I always get a ‘good fuck’ 😉
But I do know what you mean
Post # 4
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2184 posts
Buzzing bee
@graygodess20: Since the guy cannot read your mind, I think you have 2 options:
- Talk to him about it and express your desires.
- Alternatively, you can attempt to initiate by pushing him up against the wall and ripping his clothes off at the right moment. Hopefully he goes along with it and enjoys it. Afterward, talk about how much you enjoyed it/how sexy it was and make plans to repeat it in the future.
Post # 5
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1847 posts
Buzzing bee
We still have bouts of crazy passionate, up against the wall (or dining room table) kind of sex. It happens out of the blue mostly. Sometimes of we haven’t seen each other in a while (he’s away on business, or I’m out of town on a girls weekend). Usually when we go on vacation it happens. It also happens if one of us changes something – I get a new haircut, sexy new outfit, etc) I don’t think you can really plan that kind of passion, and it’s hard to fake. It has to be genuine on both sides.
Post # 6
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842 posts
Busy bee
@graygodess20: Initiate and/or talk to him.
Post # 7
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3308 posts
Sugar bee
@graygodess20:
You really don’t want to have sex like they do in the movies. The actors are only pretending. 
My husband and I have a very passionate and romantic sex life. This comes from being extremely attracted to each other and making sex a priority. We also know that we are not mind readers, so we are open about what we want in bed.
Sex is communication. Tell your husband what you want. Maybe you guys need a little getaway; we always have especially lusty sex when we go away.
Post # 8
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2118 posts
Buzzing bee
graygodess20
so they are pretending in the movies but what about make up sex?? or for us some of the best crazy rip your clothes off lovin is when hes gone for a while (a trip) and we’ve barly talked the whole time he was gone. depending on how long he was gone, it can go for staying in for days. we’ve been together for 8 years.
Post # 9
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3308 posts
Sugar bee
Have you ever told your husband what you want?
Post # 10
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1896 posts
Buzzing bee
So I spoke to hubs about this, and it’s just I really do need to speK up more or be the one initiating the “movie” sex
Post # 11
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488 posts
Helper bee
I have the same thoughts when people in a movie are just hot hot hot the entire time. I told FH that sometimes it would be nice to be like that, but we always end up laughing at something or one of us saying “move a little to the left…” or something like that. He said that’s what makes us us; we’re comfortable enough to be able to laugh and joke and talk to each other during sex. We still feel sexy enough without having to act like porn stars.
