(Closed) Sex, pregnancy, pull out

posted 4 years ago in Intimacy
Post # 3
9057 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

Hormonal birth control is pretty effective if taken properly.  Most claim to be about 98.9%.  I personally had sex while on the pill for nearly 10 years, with barely so much as a scare.

If he pulls out, it’s really not that messy.  About a tablespoon of fluid that’s easy enough to wipe off your stomach or wherever.  We just keep a roll of toilet paper in the bedside table to get most of it, then a wipe with a washcloth/water when I feel like getting up.  Then bathe as normal.

Post # 4
127 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2016 - Fairmont Chateau Whistler

Im on the pill, and we dont use condoms. I had one pregnancy scare because I had missed two days of the pill, but it turned out to be nothing just paranoia.

My SO doesnt pull out though, clean up is really easy, for us its worth it. We just keep some tissues and baby wipes near the bed, then i just pee (Peeing after sex reduces UTIs) or shower after. 

Post # 5
654 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

We don’t use BC or any protection and have used the PO method for 2 years +. Your guy just has to be really aware of his body. We’ve never had a scare. Clean up is easy, we just keep a towel near by.


Post # 6
730 posts
Busy bee

My bf and I have been using withdrawal for the last 8 years… longer than we’ve lasted with any other birth control. People snort and say I’ll be pregnant soon, but it hasn’t happened yet! If you do it correctly the success rate is good. 


Anyway, if you’re on the pill you have nothing to worry about. Just take it at the same time every day and use backup BC when you’re puking or on abx. Everyone seems to have a sister’s friend’s cousin or something that “got pregnant on the pill” but chances are they were not using it responsibly. 

Post # 7
67 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: December 2015

I was always paranoid on the pill and had him pull out (he’s very aware and has used it successfully with past SO’s) and had a successful run until I got tired of the pill and opted for Mirena. Now we just do the deed to completion.

Post # 8
367 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I’ve been having sex on the pill with my FH for 6 and a half years. I’ve never become pregnant and he never pulls out.

Post # 10
101 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

I would track my ovulation and make sure he pulls out for sure during that time. If the pillis working for you go for it! Just be careful and I would keep the morning after pill on hand just in case.


Post # 11
8176 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

i’m on the pill and we never used condoms.  when we are done, i go to the bathroom and have to clean up a little.  it’s not a big deal.

condoms defiantely make it less messy. 

Post # 12
42 posts
  • Wedding: June 2014

the pill is very effective. If you are worried and pulling out makes u feel better i say sure. If you were not on the pill it is super efective just to po since there is precome to consider but my FI like to come on me in various places. Its always extra for him to see and a man gets turned on thrugh his eyes it might add a bit of fun!

Post # 12
2 posts

almost_mrs :  As an avid proponent of the withdrawal method, as shown by our username, here is how we do it:

First, some background… I had a vasectomy over 10 years ago. She has an IUD to try to control her extremely irregular cycles (i.e. periods that would last for 3 months straight) so we’re not using the withdrawal method to try to prevent a pregnancy.

We use the withdrawal method because it is usually less messy than not pulling out. When I ejaculate, it usually comes out as 5 to 8 (sometimes more) healthy spurts. Neither of us like condoms, so we don’t use them, but here’s what happens when I don’t pull out. First of all, as I start to ejaculate inside her some of it leaks out onto the bed, couch, wherever while it’s still happening. And then more leaks out as I remove myself from inside her. Then as she gets up to go to the bathroom, more leaks out as she sits up. Then when she stands up, more leaks out and starts running down her legs. She’s lucky if it’s not down to her ankles or on the floor by the time she makes it to the bathroom. So then she has to clean herself up plus we have a mess all over the bed and sometimes the floor.

When I pull out, yes it makes a pretty big mess all over her stomach and between her breasts, (even on her neck sometimes if it’s been a while) but at least we can see where it ends up. We keep a roll of paper toweling in the nightstand and I just use 4 or 5 sheets and wipe up the mess I made before it can dribble down her sides and onto the bedding. Then I’ll climb back in bed and if I can, reinsert myself and we’ll hold each other and enjoy the afterglow.

Hope that wasn’t TMI, but we just wanted you to know there are ways to make it less messy. 🙂

Post # 13
89 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: February 2005

BC counseling emphasises that precum can contain viable sperm so your SO would be no exception. I think most folk would agree that condoms are safer than the pull-out method even with the pill as ‘back-up’.

The pill on its own is generally very safe provided its taken exactly as prescribed, but you’d need to be aware of the possible interference of some medications (and less glamorous matters such a throwing up or diarrohea) that could lessen the absorbtion of the hormones in your stomach. If your SO dislikes condoms (most folk don’t regard them as sexy and they do lessen sensation) and are both very serious about preventing a pregnancy you could discuss the additional use of a non-hormonal contraceptive foam/cream with your doctor although they are usually just sold over the counter.  They involve using a simple and quick (vaginal) slender applicator before penetration begins. You have to remember to use it each time, it can reduce spontaneity and the applicator requires rinsing afterward – but all less hassle than having an unplanned baby. 

OP idea of the morning after pill is good as a back-up plan provided it does not conflict with any cultural or religious beliefs. I’m not sure however if you can use regular BC pills and then use the morning after pill in an emergency ( hopefully you’d never need to, but both are hormonal formulations) so best get expert prof. advice if you go that route.

Best wishes.

Post # 14
2505 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

Hormonal birth control is very effective if you take it consistently.  Maybe set up a reminder on your phone?   It doesn’t protect against STD, so if that is something either or you are worried about, get tested first.  

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