(Closed) sex problems.

posted 8 years ago in Intimacy
Post # 3
5977 posts
Bee Keeper

Oh my goodness! Stop reading those horrible things! I watch about 1/2 hour of TV/week, and I must see a million commercials about erectile disfunction. Believe it or not, it has nothing to do with him cheating on you! So please don’t think that! You said that you had sex earlier that day…that definitely could’ve had something to do with it. If there are other times where this happens, ask him to see a doctor. It could be something completely physical or hormonal and have nothing to do with his faithfulness. I hate that some magazines or websites immediately jump to that! Definitely ask him to see a doctor. They can help diagnose him and give you more peace of mind rather than worrying you that he’s being unfaithful!

Post # 4
751 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

You said he hurt him self then went limp. In most circumstances when pain goes to that area it decreases the hardness imediatly. I know for one this happens with me and my Fiancee. Its probably due to him hurting himself try agian and if the problem persists then talk about erectile disfunction and so forth. Dont beat your self up or him up over this more then likly you are just freaking out. Im sure you are good enough for him or why would he of married you.

Post # 5
114 posts
Blushing bee

you said “it’s just hard for me”…. can you be more specific about what you mean? your husband waited 2 years to have sex with you- i imagine he feels some pressure to make it good for you! but i also know it takes a while to really start enjoying sex. at least that’s how it was for me. it takes time to be comfortable in the situation and really begin to understand what feels best for you and let go of your inhibitions. your husband might be sensing that you aren’t enjoying it as much as he’d like you to be and feeling pressure cause of that! don’t read all that nonsense on the internet- your hubby loves you and just wants to be with you… i’d recommend experimenting a little in the bedroom to find out what you like and what makes you happy! guys really just want so badly to please you- it’s an ego thing! once your hubby feels like he’s “the man” pleasing his wife i’m sure things will get better!

Post # 6
18643 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Stop reading whatever you are reading!  Your husband is not cheating on you, that just happens sometimes.  A lot of men have problems getting or staying hard.  If he has some type of erectile dysfunction, you probably shouldn’t bring it up directly because that usually makes it worse (pressure to perform).

Post # 7
2004 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2008

Seriously this is nothing to worry about. Sometimes it just happens—not in the mood, mind on other things (not other women—it could be him thinking about dinner, or worrying about work, or tiredness….). If you worry about it or put pressure on him it ironically makes it more likely to happen again because that stress will keep him from being in the moment. Just relax! It’s going to be fine.

Post # 8
1032 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2009


Omg..stop reading whatever you are reading online. 

Instead look up HOW COMMON it is for men to lose an erection. It has no connection to him cheating or a lack or intrest in you. Sometimes if goes limp and he can’t help it. This stuff happens to guys all the time. It doesn’t mean ANYTHING. Please stop worrying about this

Post # 9
2562 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Stop reading whatever you are reading – if he felt pain before he lost his erection it was because of the pain. 

I am sure he isn’t cheating on you!

Post # 10
818 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

Men can have erection problems. That’s part of life. Don’t blame yourself or him, just be able to move on. Hon, he waited 2 years for you. If this is the only reason you have to think he’s cheating, then stop and remind yourself that he loves you, only you. If he has a persistent problem, have him make an appt with his dr.

Post # 11
1148 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

It’s not you! This happened to my Fiance once and it was simply because the position didn’t interest him, but in your case I’d say it was due to getting hurt. It’s hard to stay aroused when you get hurt, ya know?

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