Post # 1
I did not have sex until i married. my husband had sex with a few women before me. we married over december after two years of dating. he went limp last night during sex. he kind of hurt himself and then couldn’t get it up. we had already had sex earlier that day. its just hard for me. and then i’m reading on all of these other boards that men fantasize about other women and that he could be cheating b/c he is going limp. i’m a pretty girl but what if i’m just not sexually appealing to him? I am so sad but i know i can’t make a big deal about him going limp. any advice would be helpful.
Post # 3
Oh my goodness! Stop reading those horrible things! I watch about 1/2 hour of TV/week, and I must see a million commercials about erectile disfunction. Believe it or not, it has nothing to do with him cheating on you! So please don’t think that! You said that you had sex earlier that day…that definitely could’ve had something to do with it. If there are other times where this happens, ask him to see a doctor. It could be something completely physical or hormonal and have nothing to do with his faithfulness. I hate that some magazines or websites immediately jump to that! Definitely ask him to see a doctor. They can help diagnose him and give you more peace of mind rather than worrying you that he’s being unfaithful!
Post # 4
You said he hurt him self then went limp. In most circumstances when pain goes to that area it decreases the hardness imediatly. I know for one this happens with me and my Fiancee. Its probably due to him hurting himself try agian and if the problem persists then talk about erectile disfunction and so forth. Dont beat your self up or him up over this more then likly you are just freaking out. Im sure you are good enough for him or why would he of married you.
Post # 5
you said “it’s just hard for me”…. can you be more specific about what you mean? your husband waited 2 years to have sex with you- i imagine he feels some pressure to make it good for you! but i also know it takes a while to really start enjoying sex. at least that’s how it was for me. it takes time to be comfortable in the situation and really begin to understand what feels best for you and let go of your inhibitions. your husband might be sensing that you aren’t enjoying it as much as he’d like you to be and feeling pressure cause of that! don’t read all that nonsense on the internet- your hubby loves you and just wants to be with you… i’d recommend experimenting a little in the bedroom to find out what you like and what makes you happy! guys really just want so badly to please you- it’s an ego thing! once your hubby feels like he’s “the man” pleasing his wife i’m sure things will get better!
Post # 6
Stop reading whatever you are reading! Your husband is not cheating on you, that just happens sometimes. A lot of men have problems getting or staying hard. If he has some type of erectile dysfunction, you probably shouldn’t bring it up directly because that usually makes it worse (pressure to perform).
Post # 7
Seriously this is nothing to worry about. Sometimes it just happens—not in the mood, mind on other things (not other women—it could be him thinking about dinner, or worrying about work, or tiredness….). If you worry about it or put pressure on him it ironically makes it more likely to happen again because that stress will keep him from being in the moment. Just relax! It’s going to be fine.
Post # 8
You have NOTHING TO WORRY ABOUT!!!
Omg..stop reading whatever you are reading online.
Instead look up HOW COMMON it is for men to lose an erection. It has no connection to him cheating or a lack or intrest in you. Sometimes if goes limp and he can’t help it. This stuff happens to guys all the time. It doesn’t mean ANYTHING. Please stop worrying about this
Post # 9
Stop reading whatever you are reading – if he felt pain before he lost his erection it was because of the pain.
I am sure he isn’t cheating on you!
Post # 10
Men can have erection problems. That’s part of life. Don’t blame yourself or him, just be able to move on. Hon, he waited 2 years for you. If this is the only reason you have to think he’s cheating, then stop and remind yourself that he loves you, only you. If he has a persistent problem, have him make an appt with his dr.
Post # 11
It’s not you! This happened to my Fiance once and it was simply because the position didn’t interest him, but in your case I’d say it was due to getting hurt. It’s hard to stay aroused when you get hurt, ya know?