TO @bimmy: lol, first off, I am over 50, so I’ve lived a lot of life already… and consequently a lot of what I say, I’ve already experienced first hand.
And secondly I read a ton, and all subjects fascinate me.
Books, Magazine Articles, Newspapers… have lots of great info in them (such as statistics, or studies on human behavior). And the other forms of media also gives one to access to great stuff too… be it the Internet, Documentaries, Films, Tv or Radio Talk Shows etc. And yes, the Internet is a great place to “chat” without the embarassment that might be found elsewhere.
*One great place to learn about Sex and the mechanics of it is to check out Canadian Sex Educator… Sue Johanson. I believe her Radio & Tv show is still in rebroadcast mode in the USA (and infact in some markets it will be NEW listening… as sex becomes more of an openly discussed topic in the USA… much like it has been in Canada for decades)
Wikipedia – Sue Johanson = http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sue_Johanson
I take it based on your post, that sex is still a relatively NEW thing for you… so you are finding out that there is much to learn about it. Education is most certainly a good thing.
When we are young, we figure life will go merrily along as is forever, as we age, sadly we discover this isn’t necessarily so.
Things change… but that isn’t to say they get worse… just that they become different
(As I said previously… Quality can replace Quantity)
BUT for some folks there can be HUGE differences in their sex life as they age…
As the ads say, 40% of men over 40 suffer from sort of sexual disfunction, and it goes up 10% per decade from there (so 50% by age 50, 60% at age 60, etc)
The KEY then is being in an emotionally HEALTHY relationship that has a lot more to offer than JUST SEX… and the compassion and understanding to work thru difficulties / changes as a couple
As for my info on folks even older than I…
My Parents and their friends are in the 80 to 90 age bracket now… and as you get older you care a lot less about what other people think of you… realizing more and more how similar we all are, vs different to each other in our life experiences.
So I find them fascinating to talk to. Once they get over the embarrassment of talking about sex (doing so was a HUGE taboo in their era), they can reveal a lot about how life is for them / has been for them
Their lives have gone thru many phases… some of them are life-long marriages (50, 60, 70 years)… some got divorced at some point, some are widowed, some remarried, and some are “shacking up” for various reasons. Some of them are still sexual (in whatever capacity they can manage) while others are together because of the many other aspects I mentioned. But I’d have to say despite their challenges (mostly health / physical) they are all quite happy with their lives… probably more so than many of us who are much younger.
For the most part they’ve all come to terms with how life works… and that it has its natural ebb & flow, ups and downs. They don’t get too bent out of shape about stuff that those younger than them take quite so seriously (and the younger you are, I do think the more stress one puts on stuff that truly doesn’t matter in the big picture)
Hope this helps,