Post # 1
So Fiance and I are getting married in a couple weeks, but I am also about 7 weeks pregnant and am having severe morning sickness. I was diagnosed with HG and am now on medication so it’s getting slightly better.
I have a weird question, and some may say this should be the LAST thing on my mind.. but I really want to have sex, and so does Fiance – we usually have sex 3-4 week since we started dating. Well we have had sex once in the past two weeks, and I threw up violently for almost an hour afterwards.. not to mention I have really felt yucky lately and not in the mood. Fiance in NO way pressures me or makes me feel guilty about this, rather the contrary, he feels bad and felt so terrible after the last time that he hasn’t tried anything since because of it.
Have any of you ladies experienced a change in sex drive during the 1st trimenter? Did this get better throughout your pregnancy? Any different positions help?
I don’t know what advice I’m looking for, just kinda feeling a little down about not being able/wanting to get busy. Plus I want to enjoy the honeymoon we’re going to be on and be able to make love with my new husband without vomiting and making him feel bad..
Post # 2
My sex drive went right through the floor.
I’m 16 weeks now and still not hugely interested… I can just about do it a couple of times a week but i don’t enjoy it massively. I think it’s natural though, and just something you both need to find balance with.
Post # 3
It’s normal, especially when you’re so sick, to not be up for sex during pregnancy. I’ve been like that with both of my pregnancies, particularly during the first trimester. 9 weeks is usually when morning sickness peaks, hopefully it won’t be so bad for you and you can enjoy your wedding and honeymoon. Everything usually gets better once the sickness subsides and your energy levels go back up. Feel better and congratulations!
Post # 4
This happened to me but later in pregnancy. Try keeping your eyes closed the entire time. I still got a little nauseous but it was greatly improved and I no longer threw up.
Post # 5
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I actually enjoy sex more now once we start but am in the mood less often due to nausea, tiredness etc. Hopefully things get better for you in the 2nd trimester.
Post # 6
It’s different for everyone. Mine didn’t change, it spiked a little in the first and it’s stayed about the same. If I got sick right after that would probably change my feelings about it. Your body will level out and your energy levels will stabilize in the second trimester.
Post # 7
Yes it’s normal for your sex drive to go away. For most women, it does not come back completely (I have seen many a large poll). Some women have a renewed sex drive but most do not from what I have seen. I pretty much have no sex drive while pregnant or breastfeeding. I’m okay with it because I know it’s not forever. We do have sex and I enjoy it but to be honest I’d rather go to bed at 9. Hopefully the HG goes away though, since motion makes it worse (I don’t have HG but too much movement even makes my tummy hurt)
Also my energy level did improve during the 2nd tri but it was far from my normal levels. I didn’t get my full energy back until after delivery. I assume this pregnancy will be the same…it is so far.
Post # 8
We haven’t had sex since we got pregnant. I’ve had such terrible nausea that I’m just not interested – also my OB told me to wait till the second trimester. I think it’s pretty normal.
It’s been hard for DH b/c he’s use to having it every other day.
Post # 9
It will get so much better the second trimester – just hang in there! Hopefully that was just an isolated incident.
Post # 10
We didn’t have sex at all in the first trimester because I felt so gross and my hormones were all out of wack so I had zero sex drive. Second trimester it was a bit better, some weeks I really wanted to and felt great and others I really didn’t want to. I was pregnant when we got married as well and we actually didn’t have sex on our wedding night because it was one of those nights I wasn’t feeling up to it. Then 3rd trimester I was so huge and uncomfortable we only did it a handful of times. In my experience its completely normal for your sex drive to change and for your physical comfort to require you to make adjustments.
Plus going for a while without sex is kind of good practice for you and DH since after baby comes you can’t have sex for at least 6 weeks after delivery lol
Post # 11
I’m only 5 or so weeks in, but sex is better! I can orgasm a lot more easily, though my nipples hurt/ ache. Seems like everyone is different. my drive is The same, but haven’t been able to get ” turned on” as easily :/
Post # 12
Weirdly… I’m crazy horny today and we’ve had sex 3 times (Sorry if TMI).
So maybe it’s just an early thing for me, being put off. I remember a friend said the horniness “hits you like a train at about 16 weeks” so maybe that’s the same for me.
Seems to be different for everyone though. For example, I’ve had pretty much no sickness but I’ve had constant (and I mean constant) period cramps which have not made me want to introduce a penis into the area. Today i don’t have cramps and I do want sex… So maybe that’s it.
Post # 13
Mine has bottomed out. I would even go as far as to say it’s uncomfortable when we do have it. As far as it getting better in the second tri I hope it does for you. It has not for me, but I am also still sick at 19 weeks pregnant. Being sick all the time definitely makes it harder to have interest when you’re not feeling well!