Post # 1
Does anyone have to deal with this? I’m totally a closet feminist even though I can joke around and be “one of the guys”, but in the work place, inappropriate comments REALLY piss me off. I feel like we’ve come so far (females) but it will never fully go away. Just like racism. I feel like I’m super aware/sensitive to it to, I pick up on every little comment or remark and it rubs me the wrong way. Is anyone else like that?
And god forbid we stand up against it and say “that’s not appropriate, please don’t say that again”…then we’re bitches.
I hate to sound so cliche’ but it’s true. It’s exactly like that. Men are such pigs, they really are. Even my own husband is a pig sometimes. Ughh. lol
Post # 3
Could you give some examples?
Post # 4
Just a guy I work with talking about a famous movie star or a chick on the cover of Maxim and use the term “slut” or something like that.
And then one time my boss was talking about how there used to not be as many male nurses back in the day because it wasn’t that much of a “scientific” job that requires the amount of brain power it does today. I was shocked that he said that. Oh ok, so now there’s more male nurses because you need a brain to do the job?
Post # 5
LIke what kind of comments? I don’t have to deal with this because I work in an office full of women, which totally sucks. Women can be such horribly catty bitches.
Post # 6
@nontraditionalmiami: Wow that’s pretty bad! I just got annoyed because someone referred to the receptionist and I guess people who take over while she’s at lunch as “the girls up front”.
Post # 7
I work with 2 guys and that’s it. And I guess it’s like one of those “family” type of offices but I don’t like it. I like professionalism and respect and it just shocks me that so many men still make little remarks and comments and I can tell that they feel women need to “stay in their place”.
Post # 8
Well I’m not quite in the workplace yet but I definitely understand that feeling of quiet fustration towards those types of comments. I actually have a lovely group of guy friends but it definitely pisses me off sometimes when they start joking around with ‘womens place’ jokes.
Post # 9
@nontraditionalmiami: That’s not cool at all! What jerks. Even if it is a family type of office they should still be respectful. That would really piss me off.
Post # 10
@Natalieh86: exactly. it’s like “we have names, asshole” lol
Post # 11
@assilem: Me too. And they’re all older ladies going through menopause. Seriously. So there are literally crazy meltdowns, whereas the men are actually more professional.
Post # 12
That SUCKS. You shouldn’t have to put up with that. The subfield of my academic discipline is very feminist oriented, so I haven’t had to personally put up with much sexism. But friends of mine in other subfields have horror stories.
It pisses me off when people just assume that sexism (or racism, etc.) are somehow behind us. I had one friend whose advisor recommended one of his male students for a plum position over her, despite the fact that she had more experience, because (and he SAID THIS TO HER): “You have a husband, so you don’t have to worry about money.”
Post # 13
I don’t have a problem with the “guys will be guys” thing. I relate to men really well. I love hanging out with them and don’t get offended at anything really. I have a few jokes told to me by my brother that are so offensive, I guarantee the top of your head would explode. But I just died laughing where 99% of women would totally freak.
But if you have strong feelings about it, then you can’t help how you feel. They might not even be aware they are offending you. Try speaking to them in a non-confrontational jokey way to see if you can get your point across.
Post # 14
Definitely not to the extent you speak of but yes it still exists.
I work in still a largely male dominant field so it’s a bit annoying. I feel like the males are given more opportunity than I am because they are male and expected that they know more. It’s a real sore spot with me some days. To the extent I’ve been on the verge of requesting a team change. Sigh.
Post # 15
I haven’t read every single post but have skimmed most.
There’s one guy that’s very “old boys club” at my current office.
I get the “girl” thing ALL the time. This one guy is awful… I get “Well, my other girls handle that for me” whenever he’s in our branch location.
A.) I’m not your girl.
B.) I don’t even work for the same company as you, A-hole.
C.) Why should I have to make myself a reminder to remind you to remember to check your reminder list!!!! LEARN HOW TO TURN ON THE COMPUTER YOURSELF.
D.) No, I will not make you “your coffee” even if you ask me instead of tell me next time. Nope, still don’t care if your girlfriend does that for you.
My current boss pinches the back of my arm …and I hate it. I’ve actually flinched a few times and recently became QUITE vocal about it and was told, “Well, I don’t do it because you like it” and then was brushed off with a little laugh.
It’s a mom-and-pop type place and swear words like you wouldn’t believe. Ever hear of the Glen Gary leads? That was played for me after stating I didn’t like all of the swear words.
Oh, and E.) Do your own freakin’ expense report. Just because you neglected to do so, King of the Universe, doesn’t mean I have to “run along” and do it for you.
ETA: Fix my letters. Got one off. 🙂
Post # 16
I was denied a job because I was a female. Needless to say they’ve been reported.
But seriously…in the 21st century…hasn’t everyone figured out that women can do exactly the same thing as men!?!?