(Closed) Sexless Honeymoon (TMI?)

posted 6 years ago in Intimacy
Post # 47
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951 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Firstly, I can’t imagine how hard this is on you. You probably feel rejected and unwanted, and not very sexy. Quite frankly, it would be a deal-breaker for me. You’ve exhibited a lot more patience about this than I would.

You mentioned him being in the military (my husband was in too), and that he’s never really been proactive about initiating sex. But you also said it’s gotten much worse.

Could he be on any other medication? A lot of anti-depressants inhibit one’s sex drive.

 

Post # 49
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454 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@Payless:  

“You are so helpful! I really appreciate you pointing me in a good direction for an alternative. I will take his temp to see what is going on but he does feel hot to the touch (he warms my feet and hands at night lol)”

Well, I’d suggest reading those articles (noting the 1000% increase in the young man’s testosterone) and contacting Matt. It’s definitely worth a try, since your hubby is reluctant to take testosterone supplementation.

Post # 50
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2094 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@Payless:  You are definately not alone! 

I am beyond stressed with the transition into becoming a wife. Freaking out. My sex drive has plummeted. Fiance is stressed too. But what has helped is having honest convos about it. It DOES hurt to get rejected…no doubt. But when I understood that we, as a couple, had to create what worked for us, I was less stressed. The other trap is thinking it’s going to be forever. There are things both you can do to remedy the feelings. I really do suggest therapy, if he’ll go. If not…you go. Xo

Post # 52
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2123 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014 - DD born 2015 DS born 2017

I’m sorry but this would be a dealbreaker for me. There’s no reason for him to be ashamed, and as your husband he should make more of an effort to get better for your marriage, sexual health and possible future children’s sakes.

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