Post # 47
Firstly, I can’t imagine how hard this is on you. You probably feel rejected and unwanted, and not very sexy. Quite frankly, it would be a deal-breaker for me. You’ve exhibited a lot more patience about this than I would.
You mentioned him being in the military (my husband was in too), and that he’s never really been proactive about initiating sex. But you also said it’s gotten much worse.
Could he be on any other medication? A lot of anti-depressants inhibit one’s sex drive.
Post # 48
@cherrypie: I agree that I don’t think taking testosterone would be our only option. I would be so happy if it weren’t because like you said it can make you infertile. I do wish he would get over whatever is holding him back but I can’t force it to much…
@lorie: I can’t imagine my life without him…He makes me feel so beautiful but sexy? No I struggle in seeing myself in that way. He is the best husband other than when it comes to the bedroom and when we do have sex it is great! It just never happens…I want him to get past this and find himself even though I would hate to find that his heart wasn’t in the same place as mine. He is an incredible husband…it is really hard to respond to this because those are things I didn’t even consider a possibility…
@CorvusCorax: He is on no other medication because he hates medication. He is seriously the type of guy who would rather fight a fever than take any kind of drug or…he would hate swollowing a pill. He can’t swallow pills (it is kinda cute/funny). I don’t feel like it a deal breaker because we are so happy in every other way…he does try soo hard for me. He said he would try an off base doctor after the honeymoon so that is a start. He said we won’t discuss medication but only try to find the cause and that I think is a great beginning to what I hope is a short journey….I am trying to work on my confidence with sex appeal…I think I am attractive but I wouldn’t say I am sexy
Post # 49
“You are so helpful! I really appreciate you pointing me in a good direction for an alternative. I will take his temp to see what is going on but he does feel hot to the touch (he warms my feet and hands at night lol)”
Well, I’d suggest reading those articles (noting the 1000% increase in the young man’s testosterone) and contacting Matt. It’s definitely worth a try, since your hubby is reluctant to take testosterone supplementation.
Post # 50
@Payless: You are definately not alone!
I am beyond stressed with the transition into becoming a wife. Freaking out. My sex drive has plummeted. Fiance is stressed too. But what has helped is having honest convos about it. It DOES hurt to get rejected…no doubt. But when I understood that we, as a couple, had to create what worked for us, I was less stressed. The other trap is thinking it’s going to be forever. There are things both you can do to remedy the feelings. I really do suggest therapy, if he’ll go. If not…you go. Xo
Post # 51
@Bainise2013: I am all over it! I haven’t contacted him yet but the articles are great! Thank you again for you help 🙂
@Coral99: I am so glad I posted..You all have made me feel so much better. I definitely going to start therapy with him after the honeymoon but will be going alone in the mean time
Post # 52
- Wedding: June 2014 - DD born 2015 DS born 2017
I’m sorry but this would be a dealbreaker for me. There’s no reason for him to be ashamed, and as your husband he should make more of an effort to get better for your marriage, sexual health and possible future children’s sakes.
Post # 53
@MrsYoshida: I care to much for it to be a dealbreaker but I agree that it needs to get better…I don’t have much energy left for trying to initiate…I know it is urgent and I am trying really hard to help his thought process