Post # 16
I’ll answer one- I don’t think sex has to decline just because you have kids. We have two young children and sure we can’t just decide during breakfast to bone on the kitchen table, but we do make sex a priority in our marriage. I’ve found that sex is a lot better and orgasms much easier to achieve in my 30s than in my childless 20s.
Oh and I’ll answer one other- I lost my virginity to my high school boyfriend at age 18 (and he to me) and while I remember both him and our relationship fondly, the sex was *really* bad.
Post # 17
I’ll play out boredom.
Lost my virginity at 15, it was really bad and fast sex, I’m still friends with the guy but we never dated. Hooked up again later in our early twenties and it was decent.
No idea how many partners I’ve had, didn’t keep count and I was rather wild in my younger days.
havent had kids and not sure I’m will but judging from the convos I’ve had with my friends who have kids they still love to have sex, just sometimes it’s harder to do it with a kiddo.
Post # 18
Thanks everyone for your responses.
To ask all the moms here, is sex difficult to have with a child at home? Do you have to be extra quiet or do you wait until they are either asleep or out of the house? Does it feel stifling or uncomfortable having sex with the kids at home?
Post # 19
sarandah : Your friends are weird. And I’m sorry, but this latest batch of questions about having sex with kids in the house sounds less like asking for helpful advice and more …. just pervy.
Post # 20
We wait until they’re asleep. Sometimes if they’re super distracted upstairs we will sneak down to the downstairs bedroom. My daughter is 7 and my son 3. I expect our days of having sex during their waking hours are numbered.
Post # 21
I’m only asking because I don’t know what it’s like to have any children or how my husband and I would have to adjust. Daisy_Mae :
Post # 22
28 years old (like Adrianna Lima! Lol), one partner my husband so he’s very memorable
Post # 23
1. at what age did you become sexually active and is your first partner the one you’d remember the most?
I was a teen and is was not consensual, so yeah I suppose that is fairly memorable…. As for the first few that were my choice? Barely remember them at all.
2. Does sex after your first time/first relationship not become as important
Not even remotely. The importance sex has to me has always depended more on the relationship I have with my partner of the time. It means more to me when I’m in a relationship, and obviously with my fiance it is particularly special.
3. Does sex lessen after having your first child and is sex merely a biological drive?
Can’t comment on this because I don’t have or intend to ever have kids, though I have heard that sex tends to drop off quite a bit when you have young kids in the house for obvious reasons… Too busy and exhausted for it.
4. How many partners have you had?
Hahaha fuck if I know
Post # 24
sarandah : Time to get some smarter friends.
Sex DOES matter very much in a relationship. I remember all my partners, but I never was never into one night stands, sex was always in the context of a relationship.
Post # 25
You REALLY need to get a job. Preferably full time. Because school isn’t keeping you busy enough.
Post # 26
Maybe because their sexual partners after their first relationship were a string of one night stands and flings? Maybe that’s why sex didn’t matter to them as much after, because in a relationship, they value other things more. I don’t know. sunburn :
Post # 27
- Wedding: September 2020 - --
1. 18, and no, my first was not most memorable. She is memorable, but only as much as any other one-time-thing.
2. Of course sex is still important. You’re not a flower getting your petals picked off or any other stupid abstinance metaphor. Your first time only holds the significance you give it. Personally, I’m gay and didn’t accept that until I was like 21. Sex with people I’m actually attracted to, which I didn’t start having until years after I had sex the first time, is certainly more meaningful.
4. Give or take a couple, 10?
Post # 28
I’ll answer for myself:
1. I lost my virginity at 22. It was actually really great. I loved that I lost my virginity to someone I love.
2. Can’t say—never have had anyone else, but I would think that sex would still matter. Maybe it doesn’t as much for people with lower sex drives and are happy doing it once a month.
3. I’m not a mom, so I wouldn’t know.
4. 1, my husband.
Post # 29
20 years old and only one guy. My husband!
Post # 30
I already volunteer 4 days a week. Stop assuming things you don’t know.