Post # 46
You know what, you’re right. I had sex with my now husband before marriage and it really doesn’t mean much. It’s really just impossible for me to connect with my poor husband on that deep, emotional level after fucking so many guys in my 20s. That fun (meaningless) sex really fucked me. Ha
basically waiting for divorce papers at this point.
Post # 47
sarandah : I’m asking this seriously – what are you looking for by coming to this site, and are you getting it?
Most of your posts seem to be for discussion and not advice, so if you’re looking for like-minded people to talk with, you obviously aren’t finding any here. You also seem to be offended by a lot of the comments you are receiving, yet you continue to make posts in quick succession.
I guess I’m just wondering about your thought process. There are a lot of different forums out there, so why persist with this one? It can’t be a pleasant experience for you, getting all this negative feedback.
Post # 48
sarandah : You see that little flag icon in the lower corner of every comment. If you think the comment is inappropriate, you click that and say why. The moderators look at the comment and decide if it violates TOS.
However, talking about stuff the OP doesn’t want to talk about is not violating TOS. JSYK.
Post # 49
Sex isn’t always about this big emotional connection. Sometimes it just feels good to get f*cked really hard by some random dude that you don’t have to talk to ever again.
Post # 50
Ok, I will answer since you asked and aren’t looking to snark for the sake of it.
The people here bring up irrelevant topics when the actual topic is about something else, and that’s what makes me angry. People keep derailing my threads and that my marriage isn’t a marriage that they can’t wait to see my marriage fail, that I’m too young, etc., comments that basically have nothing to do with the thread and it’s not even being snarky at this point, it’s catty behavior.
No one else, when making discussion threads, has as many people derailing them. I keep hoping that derailing doesn’t happen, every time I make a new thread. evilqueenkarly :
Post # 51
Is it biology or culture that presumes that sex is an emotional connection? Is it mostly culture that hyped up sex as an emotional connection? I’ve read that some people are let down by their first experience because they thought it was going to be this extra magical thingsharpshooter :
Post # 52
sarandah : There is another poster that said that some sort of Christianity told her that sex would be magical the first time. So someone is spreading these rumors!
Post # 53
1 at what age did you become sexually active and is your first partner the one you’d remember the most?
At 16 with my then boyfriend. Definitely not the sexual partner I remember the most. He was my boyfriend for 6 years but thank god we broke up so I got to experience much better sex. Nice person but mediocre sex. My husband and the biggest dick are the memorable ones.
2. Does sex after your first time/first relationship not become as important
Not at all. Actually sex became more important to me as I got to experience and nowadays is one of the most important things of my marriage.
3. Does sex lessen after having your first child and is sex merely a biological drive?
4. How many partners have you had?
About 10 not sure
edit: I’m 27
Post # 54
sarandah : I understand what you are saying, but the thing about discussions is that they aren’t always linear. People go on tangents, people pick up on details that someone else didn’t see, or interpreted differently, and the discussion takes a turn. If someone says something that offends you then it’s best not to engage, especially if you feel the comment was off track. If it’s truly discussion you are looking for then just steer the conversation back where you want it, and let the other comments go – no one here knows you, so what difference does it make if a stranger on the internet doesn’t think your marriage is real?
Post # 55
I’m trying to not engage since this thread and you’re right, it’s best not to. evilqueenkarly :
Post # 56
Closing this for review as it has received a lot of flags.