- 4 years ago
I have been with my boyfriend for a year and at this point in our relationship, a lot of questions have arose. We both mutually agree that marriage is definitely in the plans within the next two years. My SO talks about our kids, a house, and our bucket list all the time. Recently, he just applied for an apartment nearby and he has expressed to me that he would like me to move in with him in the next year. As of right now, he is temporarily living with me until December when his apartment is move-in ready, so it’s safe to say that there won’t be any surprises if I were to move in with him permanently. I know how it smells when he farts, I’ve been there when he’s sick, and honestly, we spend a lot of time together already. We’ve had our bickering and our arguments, but when it comes down to it, we want the same things in life. We go to church together, we cook together, and the lines of communication are definitely open. His dad and I have a good relationship and last time I saw him, he asked me, “When are y’all gonna get married?” We’re in no rush to get married, but to me it just makes sense to live with him. I get to wake up with my best friend beside me each morning. My cousin and his brother have also asked why won’t we move in together. I love my boyfriend and the thought of having the same address at some point makes me smile. I’m a bit nervous though. Some of my family members do not believe in “shacking up” due to religious views, therefore we may lose some general support in our relationship. Another reason I may not be so quick to sign a leasing agreement is that everywhere I’ve read says that cohabitation is the recipe for divorce somewhere along the line. I’m curious to see if that is the only result of this. Your opinion? Past experiences? Stories?