Post # 1
Ok, here’s the gist of it.
I have one Maid/Matron of Honor and 3 bridesmaids. I gave my Maid/Matron of Honor the first pick, where color AND style is concerned (the only thing I told her was, wear something knee length or tea length since it’s a midday wedding). So, she has her dress color and style chosen and ordered now.
NOW we are using David’s Bridal for all the Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses, as well as the Maid/Matron of Honor as that is where I have purchased my very own bridal gown. I have 2 other dress styles in the same cotton sateen type fabric available to me to give as options to my BM’s, that come in the shades of purple I have chosen for their colors.
BUT I haven’t told ANY of them which color options they have, or dress length/style. I have NO clue where to begin on this with 3 gals who probably all have very different tastes . . . and comfort levels with self-esteem, etc.
Do I offer my BM’s (by email, 2 live far out of town) the two dress style choices left that are different than my MOH’s style, and the color options they have? OR do I need to “assign” the color for each of them, then tell them the two or three (if I include the style my Maid/Matron of Honor is wearing as a third option) styles I have chosen for them to pick from and let them do what they want with that?
I just have no clue. This is all so new to me. I want them to be happy, too, and to be able to re-use their dresses and I’m sure they will. But I don’t know how to go about this! PLEASE HELP
PLEASE PLEASE HELP! As soon as you can!!!
Post # 3
I’m a little confused… do u want each of them to wear a different color? If so, I’d say you should assign them, or tell them that they can decide amongst themselves which Bridesmaid or Best Man wears which color.
Post # 4
At DB, you can ask the store not to show the other girls the dress you picked out for your Maid/Matron of Honor. If you want them to pick their own style (I’m a fan, it is what we are doing also), give them a color, fabric and or length and let them pick. You can also give more or less instructions to the DB salespersons (they keep the information in the computer so all stores have it).
Post # 5
I really popular trend right now is to pick the color, it really should be the same shade for everyone, and make sure they order at the same time to ensure they are all being dyed from the same lot. Then they pick the style that is most flattering with their body types, and you can choose the length specifications of the dresses.
Post # 6
I have several different shades of purple.
Ideally, I want each Bridesmaid or Best Man to have their own shade of purple.
But there are literally only 2-3 styles of dresses in the same type of fabric from which they could choose. So I don’t know what to do there!
I actually just sent an email to my Maid/Matron of Honor (we’re pretty tight) and told her a bit of my dilemma to ask for her input/wisdom/feelings. I told her I had her choose first, because she IS my Maid/Matron of Honor and I wanted her to have first choice on color and style within the shorter dress range. But I told her, there are limited choices and I needed help to figure this out, and needed to know if she’d be upset if one of the girls chose the same STYLE but different color?
Post # 7
Here’s the deal, though. The thing I’m not as keen on, is the fact that if I do let them just choose their dress style — the only guideline I give would be length, e.g. knee length or just above and also the shade options — then the types of fabrics will all vary greatly. And I’m big into photography, so when we all have photos together (planning on doing some “candid” shots and non-traditional bridal party photos to be cute and memorable!), it would be so NICE to have some sort of uniformity in how shimmery/matte the dresses look. You know?
Am I too worried about the type of fabric? Has anyone had several different types and it looked just fine in photos?
Post # 8
If you ideally want them to each be in different colors of purple and in 2 different styles of dresses (I am not counting your Maid/Matron of Honor since it sounds like you guys already made your selection), then I would email the 2 bridesmaids in the same email, tell them their options and what you want, and let them decide amongst themselves.
Post # 9
I think this whole thing worked out pretty well for me, after all.
Four shades were taken, the four I wanted. And it seems there will be two girls wearing one style, and two girls wearing the other (there were just three dress style choices in that fabric).
I think it will be lovely! Crossing my fingers!! LOL 🙂
Post # 10
I’m doing a blue pallet with knee length dresses. One of my girls is having a dress she wore as a Bridesmaid or Best Man in another wedding shortened to her knees. I’m telling the other two what shade of blue I want them to wear and knee length and letting them go to town. I’m also having two bridesmen, and I’m just going to buy their shirts and ties for them.