(Closed) Shall I bring props to engagement shoot even if fiance hates the idea?

posted 6 years ago in Photos/Videos
Post # 3
5001 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

Personally, I think props are silly and take away from the photos. We used zero props and got really beautiful, classy pictures as opposed to silly and fun. In 10 years, I want to see a beautiful picture of us, not a sign that says “he stole my heart”. I agree with your fiance, skip them. 

Post # 4
6359 posts
Bee Keeper

ask him what he thinks if you held the props in just images of yourself. Especially if those are just for the album, not the Save-The-Date Cards, he shouldn’t have an issue with it. If he hates props he may not want you to use those on the Save-The-Date Cards either. You should compromise and only send out images you both feel good about.

I would be inclined to agree with your Fiance on his opinion on props though, they usually detract.

Post # 5
963 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Remember these photos are about you and your Fiance, so I would leave the props out since your Fiance is so against them. Don’t worry, your photographer can definitely help you guys find great intimate and fun poses that will give you beautiful photos that reflect your relationship πŸ™‚

Post # 7
307 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Hi there. My Fiance and I debated the props thing a bit… I could go either way, he thought they were cheesy… This is what we settled on:

Most of the pics with no props, and if we wanted to add a date or message we would do that with Photoshop using graphics that could be added, changed, or removed. The one “props” idea that we did, was very personal.. rather than doing one of the trends we had seen online (picture frames, flags, balloons, etc.) we did a few photos of us sitting back to back in a field together and him reading his favorite book while I strummed my guitar. He loved this idea because it wasn’t a gimmick, it was a picture that projected who we are, what we love, and how we spend our time together (he loves to read and is a writer, and I am a musician). 

Maybe your Fiance woud be into a prop that had a more personal meaning?

Post # 8
10367 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

Can’t you just use a beauiful font to overlay your date on the photo? It’s more modern, and cleaner looking.

Post # 9
814 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

Maybe ask your Fiance to compromise and do a couple with props. I agree with him though, prop photos look silly and a little childish for something as adult as an engagement IMO. I cringe every time I’m asked to shoot them (which thankfully is rarely since engagement shoots aren’t really a thing where I live).

But you know, that’s just my opinion. If it’s important to you, try and get your Fiance to give in a little bit. You don’t have to order prints of them.

Post # 10
4464 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

I would say don’t bring them.

Post # 11
7561 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2013

If Fiance hates the idea, why would you do it? Find some compromise that works for both of you. 

Post # 12
2893 posts
Sugar bee

I’m with him. Unless the props are a part of who you BOTH are as a couple (like the book and guitar example above) don’t do them. They’re cute but they can sometimes come off as trying to hard to be unique. My favorite e-pics are the ones with no props. For me personally I like it when it is about the couple and not some chalkboard they found. But that’s probably because some of these props aren’t organic to the couple that’s why they end up not working…to me. But if you’ll be miserable without something I can’t see why you both can’t compromise and do a couple quick ones with something you like.

Post # 13
6215 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House

If it’s really important to you, i don’t see why he can’t take a couple pictures with the chalk board. however, i agree with him that you should leave the props out.

Post # 14
3092 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@AlwaysSunny:  But if she loves them why wouldn’t her Fiance just do it?  Works both ways.


What’s the big deal if you have some photos that are boring with just backgrounds and what’s the big deal if some have props that are more silly…who’s to say the non-prop ones won’t be the ones to come out silly and the ones with props intimate?


They are just pictures.  So have fun. 

Post # 16
337 posts
Helper bee

@mailingis:  Tell him you will do some with and without and if he absolutely hates the ones with props you won’t send them out (they’ll just be for you)


He probably is just being a guy.

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