Post # 1
So my.Mother-In-Law is very materialistic and is all about looks etc..which is fine. But the thing that really grinds my gears is that she also judges others by what they look like…etc. it’s hard to talk to her cause it is always about shallow crap and she has even made snide comments to me about my house…hair…etc. on top of it she gets embarrassed very easily if a hair is out of place and offended really easily. I feel like she tries to change me amd suggests stuff as if something is wrong with me. Anyone else have to deal with ppl like this? I am.very uncomfortable around her as I feel she is judging what im.wearing…looks…etc. she reay gets under my skin.
Post # 2
Just don’t be around people like this. Do not hang around her unnecessarily. When she starts in on that crap, change the subject and/or walk away. Limit contact.
Post # 3
Where is your spouse in all of this?
Post # 4
And who cares if she’s judging you? Let her judge away. Feel sorry for her – what a sad life and commentary on her own sense of self.
Post # 5
I’d spend less time with her. But I’d also probably show up to meet her in sweats and stuff. But it is sad for her that she’s living this way.
Post # 6
superwy : So the first time I met my husbands former Mother-In-Law (his ex wifes mom) at a school event for my step daughter she walks up and touches my shoulder and says “oh you’re SO pretty!”, she then looks at my husband and says “DH, shes really pretty, you did good”
I thought it was SUPER odd but Darling Husband told me she is very superficial. Apparently she always put down his ex about her weight/looks/etc which made me feel really sorry for her bc former Mother-In-Law made these comments to/about me in front of his ex also.
She also puts makeup on my 10 year old stepdaughter (like full on foundation/eye makeup/etc) and Gma and Mom encourage her to always look cute and buy tight/short clothes. Its super frustrating because my SD definitely has internalized some sense that her value is in her looks. We do a lot of work on emphasizing her value as a person, being kind, working hard, etc to offset.
Sorry you have to deal with this. I would have a hard time being close with someone like that.