Shamed by doctor

posted 1 year ago in Wellness
  • poll: Would you go back?
    No way : (78 votes)
    87 %
    Yes ,her expertise as a doc is more important than bedside manner : (12 votes)
    13 %
  • Post # 2
    1724 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2015

    You deserve a doctor you trust and who treats you with respect. If you didn’t get the level of care you were looking for from her, you totally should go somewhere else. 

    If you can’t go to another doctor, you should tell her that you did not appreciate being treated that way and that you expect to be treated more respectfully in the future. 

    She is your doctor – but you are the boss. You are paying for her service. 

    Post # 3
    3727 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2014

    Yeah that would be a deal breaker. Going to the gyno is awkward enough without the added snark. I would find a new doctor. 

    Post # 5
    13681 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999


    This is definitely not a doctor I would be comfortable going back to.

    She might be the best academically for your treatment, but honestly, you might have better luck with a doctor you’re comfortable with, and one who listens to you and your concerns.

    Post # 6
    8869 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper

    lauralaura123 :  That is absolutely not acceptable! Not only would I not return but I would report her to the board in your state. She is not allowed to randomly and unexpectedly stick her fingers in you when you’re not expecting it, just because you’re in an exam room. Nuh uh. 

    Post # 7
    1724 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2015

    lauralaura123 :  even if the fees aren’t coming directly from your pocket, she is being paid to treat you. She isn’t caring for you for free! 

    Post # 8
    472 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 2018 - City Hall

    lauralaura123 :  she actually used the word coward? 

    No I would not go back… That does not sound like something I’d want to experience again. 

    Post # 9
    745 posts
    Busy bee

    I had a gyno that made a ‘quacking’ noise with the speculum once before trying to inset it into me for an exam.  It was so juvenile and uncalled for. I hopped off the table before she could even get it in me and marched out to reception asking for a real doctor. 

    You decide how people are allowed to treat you and your body. Especially professionals in their chosen field. 

    Post # 11
    1459 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2016

    HUUUUGE deal breaker- no way in hell I’d go back. Can you imagine how much worse if would be if you had some kind of life-threatening or serious fertility issue? I’d leave and find someone with a heart. Her behavior was disrespectful and unacceptable.

    Post # 12
    1593 posts
    Bumble bee

    I am confused. You say in your first sentence that you’ve been seeing her for 5 years but the refer to your second appointment with her. Was this one of many instances of poor bedside manner?

    A doctor should never poke or prod you without your consent. I would not go back.

    Also, I have a tough time with tampons too and generally do not use them. I dont get why she made such an issue of it.

    Post # 14
    634 posts
    Busy bee

    Hell no. Report this bitch to the board. Ive been seeing my doctor for about three years and she has NEVER put something inside me without letting me know and describing how it will feel (ie. cold, pressure) even during a routine checkup. Even the nurses count down for me when I get my depo shot so that I know when its coming. 

    Post # 15
    2458 posts
    Buzzing bee

    tobeornottobe7 :  omg I had the exact same thing happen with a quacking speculum! 

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