Post # 1
I have had an endocrinologist/gynocologist who I have been seeing for about 5 years now and she is excellent as a specialist in her field. However, her “bedside manner” leaves something to be desired.
– When I came to my second appointment with her, I told her I could not use tampons (They simply wouldn’t go in no matter how hard I tried) She asked me to sit on the chair and I specifically asked her to explain what she was going to be doing so I could be prepared and asked her to just look,.not to put anything in without informing/asking me first.
Next thing I know she is putting in a gloved finger and I freaked out. She told me to stop moving, that I was acting silly. After her exam she said that the only I had trouble putting in a tampon because I was a coward. It made for a bad experience.
I understand that she might be used to patients who have had an exam before and did not want to spend extra time explaining what she was about to do….but even so I am a bit reluctant to go back, even though she is considered the best to treat my particular condition.
Would this be a doctor deal breaker for you?
Post # 2
You deserve a doctor you trust and who treats you with respect. If you didn’t get the level of care you were looking for from her, you totally should go somewhere else.
If you can’t go to another doctor, you should tell her that you did not appreciate being treated that way and that you expect to be treated more respectfully in the future.
She is your doctor – but you are the boss. You are paying for her service.
Post # 3
Yeah that would be a deal breaker. Going to the gyno is awkward enough without the added snark. I would find a new doctor.
Post # 4
lindsayE : I was technically not paying her, the government insurance was, but I don’t think that should have any bearing on my care
Post # 5
This is definitely not a doctor I would be comfortable going back to.
She might be the best academically for your treatment, but honestly, you might have better luck with a doctor you’re comfortable with, and one who listens to you and your concerns.
Post # 6
lauralaura123 : That is absolutely not acceptable! Not only would I not return but I would report her to the board in your state. She is not allowed to randomly and unexpectedly stick her fingers in you when you’re not expecting it, just because you’re in an exam room. Nuh uh.
Post # 7
lauralaura123 : even if the fees aren’t coming directly from your pocket, she is being paid to treat you. She isn’t caring for you for free!
Post # 8
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lauralaura123 : she actually used the word coward?
No I would not go back… That does not sound like something I’d want to experience again.
Post # 9
I had a gyno that made a ‘quacking’ noise with the speculum once before trying to inset it into me for an exam. It was so juvenile and uncalled for. I hopped off the table before she could even get it in me and marched out to reception asking for a real doctor.
You decide how people are allowed to treat you and your body. Especially professionals in their chosen field.
Post # 10
istanbee : yes she used that word….I don’t think that’s the best way to explain that anxiety over pain is causing my muscles to involuntary close
Post # 11
HUUUUGE deal breaker- no way in hell I’d go back. Can you imagine how much worse if would be if you had some kind of life-threatening or serious fertility issue? I’d leave and find someone with a heart. Her behavior was disrespectful and unacceptable.
Post # 12
I am confused. You say in your first sentence that you’ve been seeing her for 5 years but the refer to your second appointment with her. Was this one of many instances of poor bedside manner?
A doctor should never poke or prod you without your consent. I would not go back.
Also, I have a tough time with tampons too and generally do not use them. I dont get why she made such an issue of it.
Post # 13
chocolateplease : I never allowed her to give me another exam without explaining exactly what she was going to do and getting my ok,but I am still tempted to see if I can switch to another doc.
Post # 14
Hell no. Report this bitch to the board. Ive been seeing my doctor for about three years and she has NEVER put something inside me without letting me know and describing how it will feel (ie. cold, pressure) even during a routine checkup. Even the nurses count down for me when I get my depo shot so that I know when its coming.
Post # 15
tobeornottobe7 : omg I had the exact same thing happen with a quacking speculum!