Post # 16
Nope. Someone tells you not to put anything in them without telling them first and you do it, you’re lucky if they don’t press charges.
Someone tells you to remove your finger from them and you refuse, you’re lucky if they don’t press charges.
Not returning is the least you can do for yourself.
Post # 17
Look for a urogynecologist instead. Do not go back to this woman. She is a vile, despicable woman, and a bad doctor.
If you went to a doctor with a broken leg and the doctor told you (without making any effort to look into your broken leg) she didn’t believe you and to quit being a coward and made you stand on your leg, would you go back to that doctor? No! It’d be a malpractice suit.
This makes me so incredibly angry, I could literally scream right now. I had a similar experience, and I didn’t report it, and I regret that. I wasted years continuing to go to that doctor when I could have been getting a diagnosis and a cure from any competent doctor. I hate to see you go through the same thing – you should absolutely find a new doctor.
I’m sorry that this happened to you.
Post # 18
What she did was extremely fucked up.
That said, I don’t know what your condition is and how good your next best options are. I would put up with probaby a fair amount of bullshit for optimal care if I had a serious life-threatening condition. But that’s just me.
Post # 19
Unacceptable. Never in a million years would I go back to her.
Post # 20
Eff this shit. No one puts anything in me without my consent, ever.
I would lay a complaint against this doctor. This behaviour goes beyond poor bedside manner.
Post # 21
If I’m reading this right … The horrible thing happened, you had it out with her, then continued to see her for another 5 years? Why are you *now* thinking about leaving but didn’t leave at the time?
Post # 22
I didn’t really have it out with her, just insisted that next time will go smoother if she explains and gets my ok beforehand. I didn’t really have any other options for doctor at the time , now I do.
Post # 23
Deal breaker. I do pelvic exams on female patients every day, some who have had many exams before, and some for whom it’s their first exam. Regardless of which category they fall into, I always talk them through exactly what I’m doing, and let them know that if anything gets uncomfortable they just need to say stop and I’ll stop immediately. It’s not hard to treat your patients with respect. I would definitely find a new doctor.
Post # 24
fair enough, has it occurred since or are you generally happy with her? I mean, if she hadn’t done that (which she totally shouldn’t have) would you be contemplating leaving anyway?
Sorry, I’m just one of those that likes to fully understand before I give advice.
Post # 25
I would change my vote to go back instead of no way after the posts clarifying that this was 5 years ago. If things have gone fine since, I don’t see why you should see someone else unless you’re still uncomfortable with her.
Post # 26
There are too many wonderful doctors out there, to put up with this one. Good bedside manner is not rocket science. If it isn’t a skill which a doctor possesses; perhaps it is time to move to research or areas of practice with less patient interaction. Part of being a good physician is active listening. I would argue that it is impossible to be a good GYN without a good listening ear, and a respect for ongoing consent.
Lets be real here. This physician inserted something into your vagina without your consent. That is rape. Having a medical license does not change that. There is entirely too much violence against women in the GYN field and it needs to stop. The first step is finding a doctor who respects you. Ask any family or friends who you know have had GYN issues if they have a doctor they love.
Post # 27
Don’t go back, and leave a review about her bedside manner. Write that she called you a coward and touched you when you explicitly asked her not to insert anything yet.
Post # 28
that’s offensive, I would make a formal complaint and be sure to use the words “triggered” and “traumatized”, doctors like that are why some women won’t go for those exams
Post # 29
- Wedding: October 2015 - Ruby Princess
what she did is actually assault.
don’t go back.
Post # 30
I am a doctor and I do pelvic exams on a regular basis, and I would NEVER treat a patient like that! You do not need to put up with it. I recommend finding a different doctor.