(Closed) Shameless rant thread:take it all out!

posted 4 years ago in Waiting
Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2016 - New Orleans, LA

The rants on here have made me laugh and have made me sad.  I know these feelings all too well.  I have been with my SO for 6 years.  I had to cry and tell him I wanted to get married before he would even talk about it, approx. 2 years ago.   Ever since then I have resented him for dragging his feet, even though I know he loves me and he says so every day. He is just a procrastinator, he will wait until the bitter end to do anything!

In December 2014 he told me he had been searching for rings but didn’t want to mess up and asked if I could go ring shopping with him.  Overjoyed, I said “of course!” and we went shopping after the new year.  Fast forward to June 2015 still no ring.  He says noncholantley one night “we neeed to figure out the ring situation.”  WE? I picked a ring out 6 months ago buddy, do I have to do everything!?? LOL. So we started looking online again and we picked out a ring from a jeweler in Oregon and paid for it including an upgrade.  

I actually found out the ring was being shipped and it was delivered yesterday!!!  He doesn’t know that I know it is now officially in the house.  Now I get to play the waiting game some more!

Post # 17
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3292 posts
Sugar bee

caritcake:  How exciting! I hope he doesn’t make you wait much longer 😀

I think I’ll be designing my ring AFTER he proposes… So what the actual fuck will he be proposing with? I don’t get it lol… Better not be an onion ring 😛

Post # 18
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245 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2016 - New Orleans, LA

PorcelainBelle:  LOLOL that made me laugh.   It is fun being able to choose your ring, after all; it is going to sit on your finger for (potentially) ever. 

Girl, i would NOT be surprised if my SO waited until Christmas time or something.  Or if he looses the ring before he gets to propose with it. HAHAHA.  No but he is the sweetest, i adore him

Post # 19
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101 posts
Blushing bee

Tired of waiting and becoming SO bitter!!

I feel like he’ll never ask as long as we work together. Job interviews are 10x the pressure that they would normally be.

INCREDILY tired of listening to my friends talk about their rings and their wedding plans and I know I should be supportive, but it’s SO HARD.

Tired of feeling this way. Tired of him dodging the timeline question. Tired of getting “someday”

I appreciate this opportunity to vent lol

Post # 20
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3292 posts
Sugar bee

caritcake:  So knows I’m VERY particular so I kind of knew he wouldn’t pick a ring for me!

I have a feeling SO was planning on proposing when we went on vacation over Christmas too but that trip got cancelled, so now I think he is actually planning to propose when we are away for 5 days in Aug/Sept. He’s making it kiiiiiiiiiinda obvious, and I kiiiiiiiiiiiiiiinda hope I’m right in my prediction! lol

2 years is a loooooong time to wait after you had the talk!! I seriously hope he proposes to you well before Christmas 🙂

Post # 21
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Newbee

I’m tired of getting my hopes up and beind constantly disappointed. 

I’m tired of knowing he has the ring (he’s had it since last August) and him not using it. 

I’m tired of trying to be happy for friends who get engaged and married and thinking ‘when is it my turn?’ 

I’m tired of being told it will happen when it doesn’t. 

I’m tired of getting upset about this and it just annoying him. 

Post # 22
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2016 - New Orleans, LA

HettyB:  He’s had the ring since August 2014??!!??  You have every right to be ranting. My God, what on earth is he waiting for? 

Post # 23
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Newbee

I have no idea. He carried it around with him all last weekend on our weekend break and couldn’t find the right moment to propose. Now we’re back I’m afraid he’ll never do it! 

To to be fair to him, he only bought it that early because I loved it, it was a one-off (antique) and he didn’t think we’d find another like it. So I totally get that he wasn’t ready a year ago. But now I’m really impatient! 

And we have nothing, and I mean nothing, special planned for the rest of the year (holidays, occasions, trips) so I’m not sure it’s going to happen this year now… 

Post # 24
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245 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2016 - New Orleans, LA

HettyB:  ohhh my goodnesssss. I can’t believe he was carrying it around all weekend.  I feel awful for him. Poor thing is probably overthinking it!! And poor you! Knowing it’s just sitting there waiting for you.  Perhaps he will plan a nice romantic outing for you and propose then.  Please keep us updated.

Post # 25
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1653 posts
Bumble bee

No wedding rant here, Im just tired of my job. Im tired of working, I just want to retire. 

Post # 26
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575 posts
Busy bee

I’m in the SIUP, and made the mistake of telling SO. Now he finds it hilarious to try and “slip me up” then laughs uproariously when I do. 

He has his heart set on particular specs for a diamond, which makes his choices RIDICULOUSLY EXPENSIVE. They are the most beautiful and perfect rings I’ve ever seen… but, damn boi. That’s gunna take a while to save for! Which makes me really happy and also really annoyed.

Post # 27
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901 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2017

It’s hard. We haven’t been together too terribly long (1.5 years) but my friends who started dating their SO’s around the same time are either already married or engaged. 

Also, all of our acquaintances keep referring to him as my husband or fiance. The other day, someone even walked up to me and said “Congratualtions!” I asked, “Umm…For what?” And he said, “I heard you were getting married! That’s awesome!” I have no clue where these people are hearing this from but it really hurts my feelings and is embarrassing. 

Post # 28
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348 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2017 - Combermere Abbey

amphibiousaunt:  My SO does this to me to OMG!!! 

Post # 29
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771 posts
Busy bee

I’m mostly posting in this thread because I am utterly impatient, I hate surprises, and I hate being out of control. I just want to know!

My story so far: SO was the one who started looking at rings and hinting about them and asking my opinion, even before we’d had a proper marriage talk. I was a bit WTF because it turned out he wasn’t bothered by marriage. It is important to me, and we had lots of talks, and he said hed be happy to marry me because I find it important but in his eyes we are already that level of commitment (super cute, right?). Anyway, since then we have looked at lots of rings together in person and online. Then he drops the bomb that he wouldn’t proposed until we are living together. We aren’t looking at doing that until the new year. I fwlt so deflated because it felt like such a tease to go into such detail with me when actually he isn’t planning anything in the near future. In his eyes he’s happy to discuss the details now because he feels it’s close enough in the future. Argh! Anyway, I’ve made my peace with that, even though I’ve told him my preference would be engagement before we moved in, then one to two years before the actual wedding. I just think he will stick to his decision about proposing some time after we move in, which is fine…only…I’ve fallen in love with a good half dozen antique rings and Im worried they will all be sold by the time he gets around to it. 

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HettyB:‘s SO, mine hinted he may buy the ring since the one we both truly love is a one off, and then sit on it for a while. I tried to remain calm about this but I just don’t comprehend it. You say you are emotionally committed already, you will have made the financial commitment…so why not just propose? It seems a common thing with guys on the bee to sit in it for whatever the heck reason we will never understand, and in the meantime we just have to wait.

i admit, I am far more humorous about the whole thing now I know it WILL happen sometime, and I am quite excited to see what he may come up with on his own…but still…I’m a bit like Verucca Salt from Charlie and the Chcoo late Factory – I just want it NOW! Haha. 

On a funny note, I’ve finally stopped showing him new rings online and have a “set” board of links of the rings I like that i have sent him the url to. What he doesn’t know is that I still look at others regularly, but simply save them on another board to drool over. LOL

Post # 30
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205 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2016

I wish my Future Mother-In-Law would stop being so selfish, demanding, condescending and rude. I wish my mother would give a damn about what’s happening in my life, not be so self-involved – the world does not revolve only around her. I wish I could just have a tiny, intimate wedding and not this giagntic one that Future Mother-In-Law wants. I wish my GHD would come back to life, I really do miss my sweet hair friend! 

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