(Closed) Shamelessly Just Looking for Sympathy… or Advice

posted 9 years ago in Wellness
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

So sorry this is happening!  You certainly have my sympathy.  Would a nice glass of wine help you deal with his crankiness?  That is the best advice I have to offer.  Good luck!!

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

Aww! I have no advice, but you have tons of sympathy! I hate that for ya’ll! Lots and lots of hugs!

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2009

Wine always helps!

Sorry this happened at what should be such a fun time.

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

UGH! I am sorry that this is happening! Just so you know most Doc in the boxes won’t help much and there is a BIG chance they will just send you to the ED so that way x-rays can be done! Tell him to go to the ED get some feel great drugs and then you can still enjoy your honeymoon! I have one just like him. What makes it worse he is a firefighter and thinks he can be tough and not have to worry about it! So I hope this helps a little! Good Luck!

Post # 7
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I’m so sorry!  When we were on a getaway in Maui a couple years ago, my guy was having back issues too– luckily we’d already done the more strenuous hiking/diving activities, and were ready to have a couple chill days.  He wasn’t grumpy, but definitely had less energy because of the pain.

I’d planned a surprise spa day at the hotel hana-maui before we even got to the island, and it turned out his back acted up the day before. I kept teasing him that the surprise was going to be kayaking at 6 am… but he was happily surprised when we showed up at the spa. Anyways, the massage was great, and getting to do the sauna/pool hydrotherapy really helped his back. 

Not sure how serious his injury is, but maybe you could book your hubby a hot stone treatment and just tell the therapists to do minimal manipulation so it doesn’t exacerbate the problem?  Mud wraps might be nice too… Or drag him out to sit around in a hot tub instead of the living room… and feed him wine/champagne/beer?  I hope these suggestions aren’t way off base.

Let us know how it goes– keeping my fingers crossed for you!

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2010

Ugh that is such crappy timing I’m so sorry!!

I definitely agree with the go drink some wine — and maybe get him a shot of bourbon to ease his pain! 🙂   

Other then that — what about calling a taxi and asking for a $30 tour — they could just drive you aroudn to all the hot spots in Aspen so that you know where to go when he’s feeling a bit better. I’m sure he is super dissappointed that he is dissappointing you. Ugh just a terrible situation.  

Would you ever go out by yourself?  We went on a vacation last year and I had a bit of sun poisoning and fell asleep at seriously 6:30pm on the third day in paradise (Belize!) … I kind of woke up around 8 but was still not feeling well so I told him to go explore the bar right next door — he went for two drinks, chatted withthe bartender, came home and fell asleep with me. He said he missed me but I was so glad that I didnt make the night a complete loss.  What about going and checking out some art galleries or something that he wouldnt really want to do with you anyway? Some boutiques, shops? 

Good luck! Hope it gets better!

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2005 - Westside Loft, New York

aww i’m sorry suzanno!  i think most men like to be babied a bit when they’re sick or hurt, so maybe that’ll help? 

a night in with some movies, alcohol and games might not be what you had in mind for your honeymoon, but that sounds like a nice relaxing way to hang out.

i hope he feels better soon and you’re able to enjoy your beautiful aspen honeymoon! 

Post # 12
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Awwww, I’m so sorry that happened to you!  It’s so funny, when men or hurt or sick they just turn into big grumpy babies.  I like the suggestions of boozing him up, maybe that will improve his mood and maybe even take a little edge off his pain.  I hope the rest of your trip turns out better!

Post # 13
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Bee Keeper

So sorry!!  I know my Fiance gets upset when I try to help when he’s hurt.  Mostly he hates the pity.  So I don’t ask him (constantly) about his back although I want to!  And I don’t keep suggesting other things to do because it reminds him of what he can’t.  I usually just make him some great food (or order out) because at least he can still eat right?  And Aspen has AMAZING food!  Then rent a movie or something that you can cuddle up and watch.  Don’t worry, his mood will improve as the pain subsides.  Hope he’s better in a couple days!

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

Lol. I’m sorry I am laughing-merely because I went on a vacay with my man to Spain and everything thwarted our plans: the royal wedding, my man got viral meningitis. I was a little freaked out but- it’s like Murphy’s Law! Poor you.

Anyhow. My man doesn’t like to be coddled when he is unwell. He just likes to be left alone.

But from my experience with most of the hispanic men in my family who want to be thoroughly babied: Just make sure you give him motrin to decrease any inflammation and pain relief, have plenty of "comfort food" around… find out what his fav food is and try to get it. (I usually make my man when he has a cold ginger tea, ginger soup, grapes, crackers with jam/or cheese.)

And maybe grab some movies to just enjoy being snuggled up together! =o) Good luck.

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2008

So sorry to hear that he’s in pain!  But glad to hear he’s cheering up a bit, and that you’re definitely determined to make the best of it and not let it get you down.

I second the ideas for massages, wine, and cozy nights/afternoons snuggling with a good movie.  Turn on some music, light some candles, get some hot chocolate and indulgent treats to try at the grocery store.  Some of my best memories from ski trip come from cuddling up with a good book together in front of the fireplace.

We’ll be sending good wishes in your direction!

Post # 16
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2008

I’m so sorry!

My honey turns into a big, cranky baby when he’s sick or hurt, even though I have to "power through" even when I have a high fever and am throwing up constantly.

I agree — wine and some time, then maybe a proper doc appointment on Monday?

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