(Closed) Share you vows

posted 7 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Our vows are my favorite part of our wedding by far. We’re having a beach wedding, on a cliff overlooking the ocean, so these are just perfect. I really suggest going to Barnes & Noble and looking through all their books of vows until you find something that “fits”.

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Officiant: As we stand beside the ocean tide, may your love always be as constant and unchanging as these waves that wash beneath our feet, flowing endlessly from the depths of the sea. Your love came softly upon each others’ hearts, just as the foam comes softly upon the sand. And just as there will never be a morning without the ocean’s flow, so there will never be a day without your love for one another. You pledge yourselves this day and promise to be faithful, as unchanging and dependable as the tide; as these waters nourish the earth and sustain life, may your constant love nourish and sustain you until the end of time.

Groom’s Vows: “_________”, as we stand in this glorious place, surrounded by our friends and family, I take you to be my wife. I promise to love you with a love as deep and wide as this ocean, and I promise to stand beside you through good times and bad, through plenty and want, through sickness and health, as steady and dependable as these unceasing waves crashing against the sand.

Bride’s Vows: “________”, I take you to be my husband. I promise to love you with a love so immesne and boundless that it can’t be measured, just as no one can count the grains of sand on this beach. I promise to stand beside you through good times and bad, through plenty and want, through sickness and health, as sure and steady as the flight of the seagulls soaring overhead.

Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

I looked for inspiration online too and came up short.

I think for most people (and I’m just guessing here) wedding vows are very personal and sort of sacred. Some people don’t like to share things that are that intimate.

I’m very interested in this too, I love sappy stuff.

Post # 4
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

When we were writing our vows what really helped me was a site that said to write something about your past/where you started, what you love about them now, and where you see your future headed. We weren’t originally going to write our own, but we ran into what you’re running into now! Have you asked your officiant for any samples of what they’ve done? Ours gave us a literal book of standards that we sort of mish mashed together to create the ceremony, and then added in the vows we wrote ourselves.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

So wish I had done more research about our vows, but they just kept being put on the back burner. Then, suddenly, we were getting married and I hadn’t written anything, which I quickly forgot in the excitement and only remembered when our officiant said something. Oops! Fortunately, my groom forgot too.

Anyway, my vows ended with “I promise to try to clean more and fold laundry even at bedtime.”

Because love is expressed through actions, not words and it’s all I could come up wtih at the time. He holds me to it too, which makes us both laugh and constantly remember our wedding and vows to each other. No, it doesn’t help you, but I really love my vows.

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Here’s our ceremony that I wrote for our beach wedding-it’s pretty long…

Opening

This beautiful setting should remind us that, like the ocean, human life is an ebb and flow. The life of the spirit and emotions moves in cycles. To be in a relationship does not guarantee an eternal summer. To make a sincere and honest commitment does not promise an end to all struggles. What a good relationship does offer, much like this ocean, is the opportunity for renewal. It recognizes the abiding, shared hope that after every fall and winter, spring and summer will come again.  You are now taking into your care and keeping the happiness of the one person in the world whom you love the best. You are adding to your life not only the affection of each other, but also the companionship and blessing of a deep trust as well. You are agreeing to share strength, responsibilities and love. At the end of this ceremony, legally you will be husband and wife, but you still must decide each and every day that stretches before you that you want to be married. Honor this decision daily.

May you always need one another, not so much to fill the emptiness as to help each other know your fullness. May you want one another but not out of lack. May you embrace one another, but not encircle one another. Look for things to praise, often say ‘I love you’ and take no notice of small faults. May you have happiness, and may you find it in making one another happy. May you have love, and may you find it in loving one another.

Hand Ceremony

As an expression that you are joined together in love, will you please hold each others hands in your own, so you may feel the gift that you are about to receive on this day.

These are the hands of your best friend, young and strong and full of love for you, that are holding yours on your wedding day as you promise to love each other today, tomorrow and forever.  These are the hands that will work alongside yours as together you build your future.  These are the hands that will passionately love you and cherish you through the years, and with the slightest touch, will comfort you like no other.  These are the hands that will hold you when fear or grief fills your mind.  These are the hands that will wipe the tears from your eyes; tears of sorrow and tears of joy, the hands that will give you strength when you need it.  These are the hands that will help you to hold your family as one.  And lastly, these are the hands that even when wrinkled and aged will still be reaching for yours, giving you the same unspoken tenderness with just a touch.

Declaration of Intent

Greg, do you accept Cyndi to be your wife, to love and to cherish, to share your dreams, successes, and challenges, in plenty and in want, in triumph and in failure, in joy and in sorrow, in sickness and in health, for as long as you both shall live? I Do

Cyndi, do you accept Greg to be your husband, to love and to cherish, to share your dreams, successes, and challenges, in plenty and in want, in triumph and in failure, in joy and in sorrow, in sickness and in health, for as long as you both shall live? I Do

Exchange of Vows

Cyndi, today I give you my heart; I have no greater gift to give. I promise to be true and faithful to you from this day forward in all of life’s circumstances as we face them together. I will cherish our union and love you more each day than I did the day before. When you stumble, I will restore you. Throughout my life, I promise to cherish you and respect you, laugh with you and cry with you, comfort and encourage you, loving you faithfully and unconditionally through the good times and bad, completely and forever.

Greg, today I give you my heart; I have no greater gift to give. I promise to be true and faithful to you from this day forward in all of life’s circumstances as we face them together. I will cherish our union and love you more each day than I did the day before. When you stumble, I will restore you. Throughout my life, I promise to cherish you and respect you, laugh with you and cry with you, comfort and encourage you, loving you faithfully and unconditionally through the good times and bad, completely and forever.

Exchange of Rings

Greg and Cyndi, your rings are intimately associated with your intent to honor and treasure the vows you have just spoken. By exchanging rings, resolve to live your vows and not to let them drift in shallow promises. Believe and trust that the words you are about to speak have the capacity to create the marriage, family and life of your dreams, and that the rings you exchange will have the power to return you to your vows.  May they give your marriage direction—wherever you go you will return to each other. And let these rings be an everyday reminder of your love and commitment.

Greg, take this ring, put it on Cyndi’s finger and repeat after me:

I, Greg, take you, Cyndi to be my wife, my partner in life and my one true love. With this ring, I pledge my heart, my love, and my life to you today, tomorrow, and always.

Cyndi, take this ring, put it on Greg’s finger and repeat after me:

I, Cyndi, take you, Greg, to be my husband, my partner in life and my one true love. With this ring, I pledge my heart, my love, and my life to you today, tomorrow, and always.

Engagement Ring

The engagement ring is a symbol of promise and intention. Now the intention is realized and the promise fulfilled. Greg, please place the engagement ring on Cyndi’s finger over her wedding band to symbolize that the love that brought you together will always protect and sustain your marriage.

Blessing

Dear Lord, we pray that you will bless Greg and Cyndi as they begin their new journey together. Help them to honor and keep the promises they made here today. May you allow them to be everything to each other; a strength in need, a comfort in sorrow, a counselor in difficulty, and a companion in life. Amen.

Now you will feel no rain, for each of you will be shelter for the other. Now you will feel no cold, for each of you will be warmth to the other. Now there will be no loneliness, for each of you will be companion to the other. Now you are two persons, but there is only one life before you. May beauty surround you both in the journey ahead and through all the years. May happiness be your companion and your days together be good and long upon the earth. Give to one another new experiences of joy. Challenge one another so that you may grow. May the love you hold for each other, now sealed in marriage, continue to mature with the passing years. May you never take each other for granted, but always experience the wonder of your union.

We bear witness to this ceremony you have just completed, and this bond that has been formed today can be broken by none.

Closing

Greg and Cyndi, as you stand beside the ocean tide, may your love always be as constant as these never-ending waves that pour near your feet, flowing endlessly from the depths of the sea. Your love came softly upon each others heart, just as the foam comes softly upon the sand, and just as there will never be a morning without the ocean’s flow, so there will never be a day without love for each other. Your love will be as dependable as the tide; as these waters nourish the earth and sustain life, may your constant devotion nourish and sustain you until the end of time.

May the sun bring you new energy by day; May the moon softly restore you by night; May the rain wash away your worries; And may you live the days of your lives in peace, love, and happiness.

Declaration of Marriage

Now that you have given yourselves to each other and have shown your affection and trust by the giving and receiving of rings, along with the sun, the moon, and the sea, I have the pleasure of announcing you as husband and wife.

Greg, you may kiss your wife!

Post # 8
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

We had this read right before our vows:

Happiness in marriage is not something that just happens. A good marriage must be created. In the Art of Marriage: The little things are the big things. It is never being too old to hold hands. It is remembering to say ‘I love you’ at least once a day. It is never going to sleep angry. It is at no time taking the other for granted; the courtship should not end with the honeymoon, it should continue through all the years. It is having a mutual sense of values and common objectives. It is standing together facing the world. It is forming a circle of love that gathers in the whole family. It is doing things for each other, not in the attitude of duty or sacrifice, but in the spirit of joy. It is speaking words of appreciation and demonstrating gratitude in thoughtful ways. It is not expecting the husband to wear a halo or the wife to have wings of an angel. It is not looking for perfection in each other. It is cultivating flexibility, patience, understanding and a sense of humor. It is having the capacity to forgive and forget. It is giving each other an atmosphere in which each can grow. It is finding room for the things of the spirit. It is a common search for the good and the beautiful. It is establishing a relationship in which the independence is equal, dependence is mutual and the obligation is reciprocal. It is not only marrying the right partner, it is being the right partner.

It was read before the vows of Paul Newman and Joanne Woodward at their ceremony in 1958.  We loved it and knew we had to use it.

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

@soon2beMrsGP: Absolutely beautiful ceremony! I mean, really. Perfect! I love it!

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

@MrsMaine:  Thank you!  I see you are using a verse that we used 🙂   I spent a lot of time piecing it all together and love how it came out 🙂

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010 - Philippe Park

Ours are on the blog, but I’ll repost here. We did ours mad-lib style, and also did the traditional vows.

Mine: 

Mike, today and always, I promise to love you with my whole heart. I vow to support your endeavors, celebrate your successes, and be your light in the dark when times are hard. I will never take for granted the days, months, and years that got us to where we are now. Thank you for your unwavering love and support. For always believing in me and in us. You are, and always will be, the most exceptional person I have ever known and I promise to live every day with you as if it were my greatest adventure.

His:

Tiffany, today and always, I promise to be your rock, to support you in times of great need, and to always keep the flower vase full. I vow to love you unconditionally and with unwavering dedication now and forever. I will continue to push you to accomplish your dreams and gladly partake in your successes. Thank you for always pushing me to overcome my weaknesses, and being patient with me as I strive to overcome them. You are the greatest gift I have ever been afforded, the most precious and important part of my life, and I promise to give you my undying loyalty, love, and patience and to never take for granted the steps we undertook to make it here today.

and then:

Do you Michael, take Tiffany to be your lawfully wedded wife? To have and to hold from this day forward, for better or worse, for richer or poorer, in sickness and health, to love and to cherish for as long as you both shall live?

“I Do.”

Do you, Tiffany take Michael to be your lawfully wedded husband? To have and to hold from this day forward, for better or worse, for richer or poorer, in sickness and health, to love and to cherish for as long as you both shall live?

“I Do.”

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

Awww….anyone else get a bit misty-eyed from reading these?! 🙂

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I second that–I’m getting teary sitting here at work!  How am I ever going to write my own vows when I can’t even read other people’s without getting choked up?

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