Share your advice for a bee who is moving to the US

posted 1 year ago in The Lounge
Post # 2
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1580 posts
Bumble bee

One thing, if you’re on facebook.  There are Buy Nothing Groups that are associated with different cities/neighborhoods within a city.  If you join the group nearest where you move you might be able to score some free furniture or other random things you might need, get to know your neighbors, and specific tips on your new neighborhood. 

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

I have to say, I loved the idea of Buy Nothing groups but was extremely disappointed in the implementation.

When I was moving about 5 hours away, it seemed like a good time to try out the groups—I looked for one in my old city and one in my new.

But they have super strict rules, namely that you can’t join the group until you actually live in the city. I offered to show them my signed lease saying that I’d be there in a month. Nope, not good enough.

So it came off as really hostile and unwelcoming, and just left me with a really bad taste about the whole concept. Needless to say, after that rejection I never did end up joining the group.

Post # 6
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Helper bee

Congratulations on the big move! Where in the Bay Area are you moving? 

Not to be a Debby downer, but biggest advice is to double check your finances. The Bay Area is crazy expensive and I see a lot of people move here without realizing the true cost of things – just make sure you’re budget is doable. 

 

Post # 7
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Helper bee

Congrats! I was coming here to say about joining groups or a gym to get to know people. Adding to that, I would try to attend any fitness classes that the gym might offer. I find that if I go and work out in the general area, such as on the elliptical or treadmill or weightlifting area, most of the people (including myself) are hyper focused on their workout and don’t really tend to chit chat. But in the fitness classes (Zumba, yoga, Pilates, class for strength training, etc) is where people tend to talk to one another. Maybe it’s just my gym, but I think the classes will help! Good luck! 

Post # 8
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

lifetimegoals :  You might want to check out a group called InterNations.  They have a group in San Francisco and have numerous events.  It might be a good way to meet people! It’s typically expats so you’ll get to meet people from all over the place that might have good suggestions for adapting and understand what it’s like to move to a new country πŸ™‚

Post # 9
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2015

lifetimegoals :  welcome to the US, bee! You’re moving to a great state:-) amazing food and people.

I wanted to toss out idea of volunteering to make friends. There are a lot of great dog and cat shelters that need helpers, plus you meet good people. also reading groups (book clubs), painting classes, etc-you’re going to be in a great place for cultureπŸ€—

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

I’ve heard of people from other countries doing this as it’s no big deal in some other places apparently:

If you ever get pulled over, do NOT get out the car unless instructed to. 

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2019 - Chateau Lake Louise

I have a friend who emigrated from Poland as a teenager. She said finding a Polish church and grocery store were the two best things for helping her connect to the community. 

Even if you aren’t super religious, having a community of folks who are familiar with the language and culture of your country of origin can be a source of comfort. Plus you’ll all share the experience of moving from the same place to a new one, as well. And food is one of the most powerful ways we shape our identity, so being able to draw on that tradition can be very affirming. 

I’d definitely look at volunteer opportunities. Not only will it give your time purpose, it looks good on a resume. And, you’ll come in contact with other people who share your values; it’s a great way to make friends. 

Looks like lots of exciting things are in your future! The bay area is great in so many ways. Something to look forward to, for sure!

Post # 14
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Sugar bee

Don’t fixate too much on that 4 to 6 months. There is a huge backlog and it has been taking a lot longer lately.

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