Post # 1
This site has been a HUGE help to me when it came to wedding planning. I found lots of advice and ideas that together have contributed to giving me the wedding of my dreams. However, it took months and months of reading through blogs, DIY’s etc. Lets make this forum a sort of one stop shop. So brides–Post below some of the best wedding planning advice you have.
My Best advice was—Write a number on the back of the RSVP and Write that number next to their name in your address book. This has saved my butt Numerous times with my Wedding planning. I don’t know why people don’t know how to RSVP–But 70% of the ones who have RSVP left their names off of the card and i was able to find out who they were by looking at whole the number was matched too…
Please share your advice!
Post # 3
-Use an Excel spread sheet to track your guests, headcount, and if you sent them a STD, invitatation, and thank you card.
-Set a budget and stick to it.
-Remember, your wedding is about you, not what the Wedding Industry Complex thinks you should have.
-Ask about any discounts when booking services. I got a discount yesterday on my chair cover rentals because I asked!
Post # 4
@thatredheadedbride: Great advice! I really love the one about the wedding being about YOU! I found myself getting depressed during the wedding planning because all the pictures of other weddings on Pinterest looked so incredible and i knew it just was not in the budget. but in the end i realized it is MY wedding….not a pinterest wedding.
Post # 5
– Know your limits when it comes to DIY stuff, and when you estimate how long it will take, double the amount of time.
– Many things can be done while watching tv: addressing envelopes, entering info in Excel, designing invitations, creating lists of stuff to do, researching vendors online, many DIY projects, etc.
– Attend wedding shows with vendors you are considering booking: sometimes they offer huge discounts to those who attend!
– Listen to other people’s ideas and advice, but don’t feel you have to do everything they suggest.
Post # 6
-guest list should be determined early in the planning and dknt rely on the “its ok to over invite because 20% or more will not come” rule…. it doesnt apply if you love in a high vacation place (for me Las Vegas) and I learned that the hard way!
-budget and stick to it. period
– having a longer engagement means baving more time to budget and pay things as you go. If a longer engagement isnt your style, still try to plan so that you are paying as you go and not racking up debt. Starting a marriage off with a huge amount of debt because of a wedding or honeymoon is juat starting your marriage off with stress you dont need. Marriage is about 2 people who love eachother and want to spend the rest of their lives togethwr celebrating with close family and maybe friends. If you cant afford the huge ceremlny, dont have one! I have never once met someone who went into debt over their wedding day and didnt regret it.
-Everything will NOT be perfect no matter how hard you try. Something WILL go wrong.So do what you can and let it be if somerhing doesnt quite go as planned. Dont sweat the small stuff either
– If you are fortunate to have a SO who genuinely wants to be involved in all or most of the planning process, embrace it. If you are the other 99% of the population who has a SO that is more like tell me when and where and Ill be there thats OK too. Dont try to force him to take interest in everything it will just cause fights that are unnecessary.
– DIY projects are fun but you cant do everything. Plan accordingly and sometimes the DIY projects cost more than just purchasing it off a website. Do the research 1st.
– If you are fortunate to have a great bridal party who enjoys helping you with wedding tasks, embrace it If not, dont conplain about ur girls. They really only have to show up looking pretty on the wedding day. Everything elae they do is an added bonus.
Post # 7
I am so sorry for all the typos. My phone doesnt let me go back and correct
Post # 8
You and your fiance each pick your top 2 most important things about your wedding day. Those 4 things you don’t compromise on, everything else can be open for negotiation.
Post # 9
I was really overwhelmed when I first started planning. Colin Cowie said concentrate on three things that you really want and pare down the rest. I concentrated on the venue, catering and my dress/accessories. I cut down the budget on flowers/decor, no favors and inexpensive invitations, and limited the bridal party, a friend of mine has offered to sing at my wedding, and I’m doing DIY projects. You can really save $$$ if you’re willing to make compromises.
Post # 10
Make a list of everything, then take turns picking what’s most important to you!
I picked honeymoon (he agrred it was his first choice, too), he picked food, etc.! It’s how 3.5k of our 8k budget ended up devoted to the honeymoon!
Post # 11
This thread is so helpful!
Post # 12
Everything will NOT be perfect no matter how hard you try. Something WILL go wrong.So do what you can and let it be if somerhing doesnt quite go as planned. Dont sweat the small stuff either
I am going to print this out and keep it with me the Day of!
Post # 13
Good idea! Unfortunately for me the one thing he won’t compromise on is the 1st dance.. UGH 🙁 I can’t dance 🙁