Post # 1
- Wedding: December 2017 - Courthouse
I’m sure everyone has heard of Love Languages!
Recently, just for fun, my husband and I took the quiz and I was kind of surprised that we both got quality time 🙂 I wasn’t expecting us to have got the same love language, as we are so different. But I guess it makes things easier because we can focus on the same things.
What is your love language? What is your SO love language? Has it been easy or hard to meet their expectations?
Post # 2
My love language: Words of Affirmation
DH’s love languge: Acts of Service
I learned these before we got engaged, and it helped me understand how Darling Husband was showing his love for me, which helped me show it in the “language” that he spoke – and to appreciate when he was telling me he loved me through the acts of service he performed.
Post # 3
- Wedding: February 2020 - Breckenridge, CO
My man and I both got quality time as our love languages too! It’s so easy to speak each other’s love language when they are the same. 😉
Post # 4
My love language: Acts of Service
DH’s love language: Words of Affirmation
We both could have guessed what each others was going to be. 🙂
Post # 5
My love language is Quality Time and his is Physical Touch, but he was a very close 2nd with Quality time.
Soo accurate on both our parts.
Post # 6
I’ve taken this quiz a long time ago so I took it again to see if its changed. Some of the bottom ones swapped places but the top is the same.
9 Words of Affirmation
8 Quality Time
5 Receiving Gifts
5 Acts of Service
3 Physical Touch
I have a lot of self-doubt so saying nice things is a surefire way to make me happy, especially about being useful and appreciated. I remember one time I asked my partner my greatest fear as part of a lame internet “do you know your SO” quiz because I figured “ha, this’ll stump him” and he said “not being useful.” He nailed it. So it makes sense why he’s always a comfort to me – he knows my insecurities and says things that make me feel better.
I’ll get him to take this again later and see what he gets!
Post # 7
Mine: Acts of Service & Quality Time.
Husband: I keep forgetting to get him to do the quiz, but my best guess would be Quality Time and Words of Affirmation
The funny thing is though that I’m not sure Acts of Service would have been one of mine before I met my husband. I think I just appreciate that he does so much for me just when I need it, so it became a big thing for us. My exes didn’t do so much and I never noticed the lack of it.
Post # 8
Mine are acts of service.
His are Touch.
Post # 9
im the gift giver. im incredibly thoughtful and i love to gift my loved ones with things i know they need or like.
husband is a mix between physical touch and acts of service.
Post # 10
- Wedding: December 2017 - Courthouse
These responses are super interesting. It’s cool that so many people know their love languages 🙂
Post # 11
In my role as buzzkill, I’ll point out that the concept of “love languages” has no demonstrated scientific validity. Gary Chapman has spent a lot of time marketing the idea to the public, and zero time in research to validate the idea. Why would he? He makes a ton of money off it, and doesn’t want to risk that!
That said, it’s a useful way to spark conversation with your partner about your needs and their needs, and to help you recognize that they might be different.
Post # 12
adastra : Oh ya, I definitely never viewed it as scientific, I didn’t actually realise anyone did!
I thought it was more of a conceptual relationship theory that helps people look at how they give and receive love differently. It’s not like gifts only biologically trigger a positive hormonal response in people that identify as “Recieving Gifts.” Just more about figuring out what matters most to you and helping you and your partner communicate about that.
From what I understand your love languages can change as well. Like in my current relationship I value acts of service a lot, but I think that’s specific to my husband not something innate about me.
To be fair I haven’t read the whole book so I don’t actually know the extent of its claims haha.
Post # 13
sarathemermaid : we were both acts of service, so that was easy. I think I’m pretty close on wanting gifts too, though, me and my greedy self.
Post # 14
Mine is receiving gifts; my wife’s is acts of service. We are aware of each other’s love languages and try to accomodate them 🙂
Post # 15
I’m quality time and physical touch. It made the 2 years we were long distance awful!
My SO is words of affirmation. I’m still working on expressing his language to him more.